I'm still struggling along... but no big changes...
It still hurts to swallow. But all I can say is I've gotten used to it. I cringe every now and then and make funny faces and cough like an old man. But I know it's only temporary.
I'm eating regularly and reasonably well. I'm certainly not eating as much as I used to and not everything I used to. But I am eating three meals a day when possible. It just takes me forever.
Today I actually went out to my local café (Le Madrigal) where I used to eat regularly. I stood at the bar and had a ham and cheese sandwich, as usual, along wtih a panaché (half lager half lemonade). The sandwich tasted fine. But people started staring at me a half hour later when I still hadn't finished it. The beer went down OK. It certainly doesn't taste as good as it used to (yet). The biggest negative part about the beer is the bubbles which bother my throat. They don't exactly tickle. They more scratch ever so lightly. I'm sure English ale, which is generally warmer and flatter, will go down much better. Something to look forward to. However it was just a nice feeling to be standing at my local, eating and drinking like a "normal" person.
I've now finished most of my medication. The only things left are my laxative the morning (too much information?), my sleeping tablet (half) each night and my magic mouthwash.
I am finally, slowly but surely, getting back to work. I'm working maybe 2 to 4 hours a day. It's a good feeling to be cleaning up things on my desk and getting things done. Most of what I'm working on at the moment is my backlog. Five months of accounting, bookkeeping, tax declarations and end of year accounts are not a lot of fun.
My voice still isn't back to a comfortable level yet. People lean over close to hear what I'm saying and my mouth dries up real quickly. But I can at least talk a bit and tell someone what I want or how I feel... whether they want to know or not.
Every day I wake up feeling a bit groggy and with a throat screaming at me for liquid. But like all of these symptoms: this too shall pass.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Sunday, January 22, 2006
Computers...
I spent all day Saturday locked away in my office installing my new desktop computer (Dell Dimension 9150). I came out for dinner and then went back and finished late in the evening. Jessica was out babysitting for the evening and didn't get back until 01:15 in the morning which was just when I finished...I spent all day Sunday reformatting and reinstalling my now "old" desktop computer for Desney to use as her computer.
Desney prepared a Sunday dinner of steak with mushroom sauce and green beans. She had a red Château le Fagé which appeared to go really well... it smelled great to me.
Health and Meds
Although Dr. Girard gave me a whole barrage of new medication I haven't started taking any of them.
The morphine-based painkillers are going to knock me out for 3 days and then "just make me tired" for the rest of the time. At the moment I'm not willing to make that sort of sacrifice of my time as I finally feel as though I'm just starting to be able to do things again. I feel as though I'm able to do more and more, even if it is ever so slightly, each day. I'm not willing to take so many steps backward in my evolution. I can't say I don't feel the pain or that it doesn't bother me. But I have become accustomed to it and it is more than bearable.
The liquidifying syrup he gave me (Maxilase) does what it says it will. It turns my thick saliva in to liquid which I then spend a good 10 minutes coughing up. This irritates my throat to no end but does get rid of the saliva. However 45 to 60 minutes laters it's back sitting there as a big lump at the back of my throat. I'm almost getting used to that as well. I stopped taking this at the end of the first day.
The medecine he gave me for "reflux" doesn't appear to have any great effect on me as that doesn't appear to be part of the problem. There's nothing going up and down in my throat. There's just the thick lump of saliva constantly sitting at the top of my throat which is caused by my impaired salivary glands. I didn't taking these.
The only medication I'm left taking is my corticoid (Solupred) of which I am at the end of the treatment. It's one of those where the treatment has to end very gradually. I'm down from 2 tablets per day to 1/4 of one tablet per day and should be finished in about 3 more days. The only other medication left is the sleeping tablet of which I take one-half every night. As I'm sleeping reasonably well I'm not willing to stop this one quite yet.
I still have difficulty swallowing and it still hurts. However I'm getting used to it. I know it's only temporary and that eventually it will heal. None of the medication previously prescribed would do anything for the actually healing process.
I still have practically no voice. That too will eventually heal and it more than likely directly related to the throat constriction itself as well as the lack of saliva. None of the medication would help with my voice either.
My taste buds are still very confused. That too will pass with time. I'm learning to be patient. But damn I really miss a good glass of wine!
I dream of the day when I can guzzle back a glass of water, swallow after swallow, without even thinking about it.
The morphine-based painkillers are going to knock me out for 3 days and then "just make me tired" for the rest of the time. At the moment I'm not willing to make that sort of sacrifice of my time as I finally feel as though I'm just starting to be able to do things again. I feel as though I'm able to do more and more, even if it is ever so slightly, each day. I'm not willing to take so many steps backward in my evolution. I can't say I don't feel the pain or that it doesn't bother me. But I have become accustomed to it and it is more than bearable.
The liquidifying syrup he gave me (Maxilase) does what it says it will. It turns my thick saliva in to liquid which I then spend a good 10 minutes coughing up. This irritates my throat to no end but does get rid of the saliva. However 45 to 60 minutes laters it's back sitting there as a big lump at the back of my throat. I'm almost getting used to that as well. I stopped taking this at the end of the first day.
The medecine he gave me for "reflux" doesn't appear to have any great effect on me as that doesn't appear to be part of the problem. There's nothing going up and down in my throat. There's just the thick lump of saliva constantly sitting at the top of my throat which is caused by my impaired salivary glands. I didn't taking these.
The only medication I'm left taking is my corticoid (Solupred) of which I am at the end of the treatment. It's one of those where the treatment has to end very gradually. I'm down from 2 tablets per day to 1/4 of one tablet per day and should be finished in about 3 more days. The only other medication left is the sleeping tablet of which I take one-half every night. As I'm sleeping reasonably well I'm not willing to stop this one quite yet.
I still have difficulty swallowing and it still hurts. However I'm getting used to it. I know it's only temporary and that eventually it will heal. None of the medication previously prescribed would do anything for the actually healing process.
I still have practically no voice. That too will eventually heal and it more than likely directly related to the throat constriction itself as well as the lack of saliva. None of the medication would help with my voice either.
My taste buds are still very confused. That too will pass with time. I'm learning to be patient. But damn I really miss a good glass of wine!
I dream of the day when I can guzzle back a glass of water, swallow after swallow, without even thinking about it.
Friday, January 20, 2006
Friday
The most exciting element of the day was the partial delivery of my new computer. My new desktop computer (Dell Dimension 9150) arrived. This is part of my order as I have a new laptop which should be coming at the beginning of next week. These are both purchased on credit so this gives me another good reason to live at least another 3 years so my family doesn’t have to pay these things off.
In the evening we picked up some Japanese food from our local restaurant and we watched Girl With A Pearl Earring. This was one of the DVDs Arlene had bought for us during her last visit. It was probably one of the most beautiful films (visually) I’ve seen in quite some time. I quite enjoyed it as did Jessica. She described the tone quite well. She said it’s “peaceful”.
In the evening we picked up some Japanese food from our local restaurant and we watched Girl With A Pearl Earring. This was one of the DVDs Arlene had bought for us during her last visit. It was probably one of the most beautiful films (visually) I’ve seen in quite some time. I quite enjoyed it as did Jessica. She described the tone quite well. She said it’s “peaceful”.
Thursday, January 19, 2006
A very, very busy day
I knew it… I had been preparing myself mentally for today all week…
I awoke at 07:30 which is the earliest I’ve awoken in many, many weeks (except for the brief hug with Alex at 05:30). I showered, breakfasted and was out of the house by about 10:30 which is again a record.
I went to see a client in the 7th. I only had about a half an hour of work to do there but it had to physically be done at the office. I was installing the system which allows me to work on the computer remotely. The installation itself has to be done there as there are accounts and passwords to enter and configure. They also had an amazing bottle of wine waiting for me as a Christmas gift which I will now use as a sort of goal. I have to get better enough to be able to drink this. It’s a sort of mountain peak to strive towards.
I then went to see my client in the 16th where I knew I would be working for the rest of the day. They had been patiently waiting for me to come to the office and the problems had just been building up since my operations. I spent the rest of the day working on their computers and getting everything working. It felt great, albeit exhausting, at the end of the day when everything worked as it should.
One of the cool things I installed here was the new version of Skype on each of the computers. Skype itself is pretty cool for people who need to communicate internationally and want to save some money. This company communicates with offices all around the world, including some pretty far flung places, and the savings could be astronomical. However the limitation of Skype is that you have to talk through your computer. This normally requires either a microphone and the computer speakers, which mean everyone can hear your conversation, or a headset (headphone and microphone) which plugs in to the computer. But here we connected up a couple of new Skype Phones and they worked great.
At the end of the day Jessica and a friend of hers met me at my client’s and the thereof us headed off to the theatre in Boulogne-Billancourt. We had purchased tickets to see Bérénice (Racine) as it’s a play that they’re studying in school and they have a test on it tomorrow. First we found a restaurant (Chinese) and had dinner and then we went to the show. I personally found the production extremely stilted, stiff and incredibly boring. But the girls loved it.
I awoke at 07:30 which is the earliest I’ve awoken in many, many weeks (except for the brief hug with Alex at 05:30). I showered, breakfasted and was out of the house by about 10:30 which is again a record.
I went to see a client in the 7th. I only had about a half an hour of work to do there but it had to physically be done at the office. I was installing the system which allows me to work on the computer remotely. The installation itself has to be done there as there are accounts and passwords to enter and configure. They also had an amazing bottle of wine waiting for me as a Christmas gift which I will now use as a sort of goal. I have to get better enough to be able to drink this. It’s a sort of mountain peak to strive towards.
I then went to see my client in the 16th where I knew I would be working for the rest of the day. They had been patiently waiting for me to come to the office and the problems had just been building up since my operations. I spent the rest of the day working on their computers and getting everything working. It felt great, albeit exhausting, at the end of the day when everything worked as it should.
One of the cool things I installed here was the new version of Skype on each of the computers. Skype itself is pretty cool for people who need to communicate internationally and want to save some money. This company communicates with offices all around the world, including some pretty far flung places, and the savings could be astronomical. However the limitation of Skype is that you have to talk through your computer. This normally requires either a microphone and the computer speakers, which mean everyone can hear your conversation, or a headset (headphone and microphone) which plugs in to the computer. But here we connected up a couple of new Skype Phones and they worked great.
At the end of the day Jessica and a friend of hers met me at my client’s and the thereof us headed off to the theatre in Boulogne-Billancourt. We had purchased tickets to see Bérénice (Racine) as it’s a play that they’re studying in school and they have a test on it tomorrow. First we found a restaurant (Chinese) and had dinner and then we went to the show. I personally found the production extremely stilted, stiff and incredibly boring. But the girls loved it.
Tuesday, January 17, 2006
Dr. Girard
As my throat is still killing me when I swallow, and I can’t start the treatment Dr. Hagege gave me which are mostly pills, I called and made an appointment with my family doctor (Dr. Girard) who I haven’t seen since all of this began.
Dr. Girard has been our family doctor for over fifteen years now and is someone I trust completely. He is always honest, extremely helpful and if he doesn’t have the answer he’ll research until he finds it. He’s one of those true old-fashioned family doctors who makes house calls in the mornings and receives patients in the afternoon until quite late in the evening. He may very well have saved my life with the speed in which he got me scanned, verified and operated on. He actually called surgeons he knew on their mobile phones while they were still on holiday to get me someone (good) as soon as possible.
It was a good meeting and we started with all of the normal niceties, Happy New Year, how’s the family? And such…
A lot of what he had to say was the same as most of the other doctors have said which is a phrase I have come to hate: “You’ll just have to be strong and get through it. Only time and rest will heal. It will take time but we do not know how long. It’s different for each person as each person is different, each cancer is different and each treatment is different.” Personally I’m sick and tired of being strong.
He gave me some new medication for the coughing, all in liquid form, and he has given me some very strong painkillers which are morphine-based. They had to be ordered special so I’ll be picking them up tonight.
He answered all of my questions with long detailed answers and called other experts for answers before responding to me. It was a very “feel good” meeting as I came out of there feeling better even though there weren’t any real answers or solutions.
One of the important things he said was that I am still sick, no matter how good I feel at certain moments, and that I should sleep when I feel tired and eat when I’m hungry and not worry about daytime, nighttime and mealtimes.
Dr. Girard has been our family doctor for over fifteen years now and is someone I trust completely. He is always honest, extremely helpful and if he doesn’t have the answer he’ll research until he finds it. He’s one of those true old-fashioned family doctors who makes house calls in the mornings and receives patients in the afternoon until quite late in the evening. He may very well have saved my life with the speed in which he got me scanned, verified and operated on. He actually called surgeons he knew on their mobile phones while they were still on holiday to get me someone (good) as soon as possible.
It was a good meeting and we started with all of the normal niceties, Happy New Year, how’s the family? And such…
A lot of what he had to say was the same as most of the other doctors have said which is a phrase I have come to hate: “You’ll just have to be strong and get through it. Only time and rest will heal. It will take time but we do not know how long. It’s different for each person as each person is different, each cancer is different and each treatment is different.” Personally I’m sick and tired of being strong.
He gave me some new medication for the coughing, all in liquid form, and he has given me some very strong painkillers which are morphine-based. They had to be ordered special so I’ll be picking them up tonight.
He answered all of my questions with long detailed answers and called other experts for answers before responding to me. It was a very “feel good” meeting as I came out of there feeling better even though there weren’t any real answers or solutions.
One of the important things he said was that I am still sick, no matter how good I feel at certain moments, and that I should sleep when I feel tired and eat when I’m hungry and not worry about daytime, nighttime and mealtimes.
Sunday, January 15, 2006
Alex' 11th
It's quite strange at home... strangely peaceful and quiet.
This is the first time Alex or us have celebrated her birthday without being together. I hope she's having a great time...
I unfortunately have been having a pretty bad few days... swallowing has become very painful again and I get more tired more often...
I sometimes feel like I'm on a rollercoaster... I've had enough and I want to get off!
This is the first time Alex or us have celebrated her birthday without being together. I hope she's having a great time...
I unfortunately have been having a pretty bad few days... swallowing has become very painful again and I get more tired more often...
I sometimes feel like I'm on a rollercoaster... I've had enough and I want to get off!
Saturday, January 14, 2006
I am not alone
I’ve been having one of those bad days… my throat is just absolutely killing me today… every swallow is the kind of pain where I want to punch a wall…
Out of minor depression I started looking around the net… My cancer is referred to as throat cancer because it started in the throat. The name of one’s cancer is determined by where the primary tumour is/was. In my case that was my left tonsil so technically I have tonsil cancer.
While browsing around I found Raph’s Tonsil Cancer site. The similarities are amazing. What was the best for me was to read some of the positive outcomes and how he is living a relatively normal life now…
Out of minor depression I started looking around the net… My cancer is referred to as throat cancer because it started in the throat. The name of one’s cancer is determined by where the primary tumour is/was. In my case that was my left tonsil so technically I have tonsil cancer.
While browsing around I found Raph’s Tonsil Cancer site. The similarities are amazing. What was the best for me was to read some of the positive outcomes and how he is living a relatively normal life now…
Friday, January 13, 2006
Now we are three
Poor Desney had to get up at 5:00 this morning to get Alex ready. Alexandra’s class is going away for 2 weeks of “classe de neige” (class in the snow) down in the French alps. She had to be ready and at school for 6:00 this morning. I highly doubt she got any sleep last night as she’s been pretty excited about this for weeks now. I got up at 5:30, gave her a hug, and went back to sleep until about 9:00.
In the evening Jess went out and picked up pizza and we watched The Recruit which I had rented. I thought it was quite good and relatively unpredictable as a thriller. Not enough action in it for the remaining members of the family. However apparently Colin Farrell is sexy enough to keep the younger's interest throughout... After seeing 2 Pacino films in 2 weeks however I’ve had enough Pacino for the year.
In the evening Jess went out and picked up pizza and we watched The Recruit which I had rented. I thought it was quite good and relatively unpredictable as a thriller. Not enough action in it for the remaining members of the family. However apparently Colin Farrell is sexy enough to keep the younger's interest throughout... After seeing 2 Pacino films in 2 weeks however I’ve had enough Pacino for the year.
Thursday, January 12, 2006
Power Cuts
Power Cuts
Back in November, when Arlen was here, we started having electricity cuts. We’d be in the middle of living our normal lives and all of a sudden the electricity would go off. Most of the houses on our street were in the same situation. It would last anywhere from 15 minutes to several hours. One night it went off, and back on, and back off, and back on again several times which was even more frustrating. This culminated in one evening where the power stayed off all night and came back on early in the morning. Most of the time the power would cut off relatively late in the evening and we’d all end up going to bed a bit early. This happened about 6 times throughout the following months and hasn’t happened for a while.
Wednesday night the TV cable cut off. No television. Instead we sat around watching a couple of episodes of Cheers from my DVD. I realised that I was the only one who found it funny. Another case of American humour, especially from the early 80s, which just didn’t travel well. However I do recall the show being extremely popular when I first arrived in England in 1983. Anyway the cable must have been repaired in the night as it was working fine again in the morning. Then, last night, it cut off again. This time we put on another one of my Christmas presents: Only Fools and Horses: Season One. Although this is from the same period as Cheers, Desney and Jessica seemed to find this funnier. However right in the middle of the second episode the electricity cut. At 22:30 there was no electricity in the house.
This was quite frustrating, as usual, and eventually everyone went to bed. Unfortunately the electricity wasn’t working again in the morning and I assume everyone blindly went around getting ready. No hot water must not have made things any easier either. I personally slept in. At around 10:30, just about exactly 12 hours after it went off, the electricity came back on.
With the TV cutting off and the electricity cutting off I’m starting to feel like I’m living in some tiny village in remote Scotland with an infrastructure from the 19th century!
Back in November, when Arlen was here, we started having electricity cuts. We’d be in the middle of living our normal lives and all of a sudden the electricity would go off. Most of the houses on our street were in the same situation. It would last anywhere from 15 minutes to several hours. One night it went off, and back on, and back off, and back on again several times which was even more frustrating. This culminated in one evening where the power stayed off all night and came back on early in the morning. Most of the time the power would cut off relatively late in the evening and we’d all end up going to bed a bit early. This happened about 6 times throughout the following months and hasn’t happened for a while.
Wednesday night the TV cable cut off. No television. Instead we sat around watching a couple of episodes of Cheers from my DVD. I realised that I was the only one who found it funny. Another case of American humour, especially from the early 80s, which just didn’t travel well. However I do recall the show being extremely popular when I first arrived in England in 1983. Anyway the cable must have been repaired in the night as it was working fine again in the morning. Then, last night, it cut off again. This time we put on another one of my Christmas presents: Only Fools and Horses: Season One. Although this is from the same period as Cheers, Desney and Jessica seemed to find this funnier. However right in the middle of the second episode the electricity cut. At 22:30 there was no electricity in the house.
This was quite frustrating, as usual, and eventually everyone went to bed. Unfortunately the electricity wasn’t working again in the morning and I assume everyone blindly went around getting ready. No hot water must not have made things any easier either. I personally slept in. At around 10:30, just about exactly 12 hours after it went off, the electricity came back on.
With the TV cutting off and the electricity cutting off I’m starting to feel like I’m living in some tiny village in remote Scotland with an infrastructure from the 19th century!
Tuesday, January 10, 2006
It's magic!
Thanks to the sleeping pills Dr. Hagege gave me I slept all night last night, from midnight to 07:00, for the first time since October! It was a wonderful feeling to wake up feeling as though I'd actualy slept.
Most of the rest of the medication he gave me however is practically useless. It's mostly tablets and I can't swallow them. One would have thought that a throat specialist who just spent a harrowing hour looking down my throat would have known that. I now have to see if I can get something different...
Most of the rest of the medication he gave me however is practically useless. It's mostly tablets and I can't swallow them. One would have thought that a throat specialist who just spent a harrowing hour looking down my throat would have known that. I now have to see if I can get something different...
Monday, January 09, 2006
Back to the doctor's
After my experience last night I called my specialist (Dr. Hagege) in the morning to move my appointment from next Monday (16/01) to as soon as possible. I was very lucky to get an appointment for this afternoon.
I tried to get a bit of work done in the morning as I now knew my afternoon was blocked.
I received one of my Christmas presents in the post today. I had received an Amazon gift certificate from my in-laws and I ordered the DVD of one of my all-time favourite series from my youth: Cheers: The Complete First Season. For lunch I ran out and got myself a Greek sandwich and sat at home watching 3 episodes. I had a great time!
Although I arrived just in front of Dr. Hagege’s office about 25 minutes early I arrived in his office on time. It took me that long to park… even illegally! The appointment was nightmarish. If I knew it was going to be that bad I might have waited another week. I explained to him my symptoms and problems. He explained that it’s still too soon after the end of the treatments (one month today) to start work on the surveillance aspect of treatment and that it’s normal that all of my throat and nasal passages are currently severely damaged. However he did a full examination.
He shpritzed the back of my throat with an anaesthesia and then put the cotton up my nostrils with anaesthesia as well. Already I was gagging and almost throwing up. Then came the actual examination which started to remind me of the dentist scene with Laurence Olivier and Dustin Hoffman in Marathon Man. He performed a full fiberscope (camera up the nostril and down the throat). I could have killed him… if I had the strength. It ended with my throwing up, slightly, and collapsing in to a ball of tears on his chair. He said that next time I should take a Xanax (relaxant) about an hour before coming to see him as I was obviously quite “tense”. Talk about an understatement.
Going through the full exam at least allowed him to answer my questions. Although I still can’t speak it’s temporary. My vocal chords were not damaged and my voice should come back to normal… eventually. Like every other doctor however he does not provide any idea as to time. It could be weeks or it could be months. He believes my coughing is due to a problem of “reflux” whereby acid is coming up from my stomach through my oesophagus. He’s given me medication for that which should help over the next week. I’m praying it does as this is one of the biggest problems I have. As regards the pain in the throat there’s practically nothing to be done. Pain killers, apart from Morphine, are useless. This explains why the Efferalgan/Codeine had so little effect… if any. I just have to keep the throat as lubricated as possible as often as possible. He did give me a new mouth wash which includes a bit of anaesthesia in it which may help. He was also kind enough to give me some pills to help me sleep. Here too I pray that works as I can’t remember the last time I had a full night’s sleep. According to him the next time I should see him is in 3 months at which time we will do our first post-treatment scan.
I got home feeling pretty awful as the exam was quite painful. As the anaesthesia wore off my nostrils started really killing me.
Desney had made some Bolognese sauce yesterday, along with all the other cooking she had done, and we had pasta Bolognese for dinner… delicious. An hour and a half after the exam I was able to eat and I did so voraciously.
I tried to get a bit of work done in the morning as I now knew my afternoon was blocked.
I received one of my Christmas presents in the post today. I had received an Amazon gift certificate from my in-laws and I ordered the DVD of one of my all-time favourite series from my youth: Cheers: The Complete First Season. For lunch I ran out and got myself a Greek sandwich and sat at home watching 3 episodes. I had a great time!
Although I arrived just in front of Dr. Hagege’s office about 25 minutes early I arrived in his office on time. It took me that long to park… even illegally! The appointment was nightmarish. If I knew it was going to be that bad I might have waited another week. I explained to him my symptoms and problems. He explained that it’s still too soon after the end of the treatments (one month today) to start work on the surveillance aspect of treatment and that it’s normal that all of my throat and nasal passages are currently severely damaged. However he did a full examination.
He shpritzed the back of my throat with an anaesthesia and then put the cotton up my nostrils with anaesthesia as well. Already I was gagging and almost throwing up. Then came the actual examination which started to remind me of the dentist scene with Laurence Olivier and Dustin Hoffman in Marathon Man. He performed a full fiberscope (camera up the nostril and down the throat). I could have killed him… if I had the strength. It ended with my throwing up, slightly, and collapsing in to a ball of tears on his chair. He said that next time I should take a Xanax (relaxant) about an hour before coming to see him as I was obviously quite “tense”. Talk about an understatement.
Going through the full exam at least allowed him to answer my questions. Although I still can’t speak it’s temporary. My vocal chords were not damaged and my voice should come back to normal… eventually. Like every other doctor however he does not provide any idea as to time. It could be weeks or it could be months. He believes my coughing is due to a problem of “reflux” whereby acid is coming up from my stomach through my oesophagus. He’s given me medication for that which should help over the next week. I’m praying it does as this is one of the biggest problems I have. As regards the pain in the throat there’s practically nothing to be done. Pain killers, apart from Morphine, are useless. This explains why the Efferalgan/Codeine had so little effect… if any. I just have to keep the throat as lubricated as possible as often as possible. He did give me a new mouth wash which includes a bit of anaesthesia in it which may help. He was also kind enough to give me some pills to help me sleep. Here too I pray that works as I can’t remember the last time I had a full night’s sleep. According to him the next time I should see him is in 3 months at which time we will do our first post-treatment scan.
I got home feeling pretty awful as the exam was quite painful. As the anaesthesia wore off my nostrils started really killing me.
Desney had made some Bolognese sauce yesterday, along with all the other cooking she had done, and we had pasta Bolognese for dinner… delicious. An hour and a half after the exam I was able to eat and I did so voraciously.
She's Gone!
We all got up in time to see Arlene off. She left for the airport at 7:30. She’s got a very, very long trip home (Paris – Dublin, Dublin – New York).
Sunday, January 08, 2006
Sunday @ Home
After a pretty bad night on Friday I was back on the couch last night. It turned out to be one of the worst nights I’ve had. I was up and coughing until 4:30 in the morning. I finally got to sleep, sitting upright, until about 7:30 and then I was half-asleep until about 9:00. My throat is killing me after all the coughing…
After a long and slow Sunday morning breakfast we spent most of the day sitting around. Arlene, Jessica and I played The Da Vinci Quest game for a while as Alexandra was reading and studying. Then all four of us played pool in the cellar for some time while Desney was cooking up wonderful things in the kitchen. We had a great time...
Sunday dinner was wonderful and delicious as usual: roast duck, carrots with parsley, courgette with garlic; bread and cheese afterwards… and I was able to eat all of it. It all tasted great and I was just happy to be able to eat with everyone.
After a long and slow Sunday morning breakfast we spent most of the day sitting around. Arlene, Jessica and I played The Da Vinci Quest game for a while as Alexandra was reading and studying. Then all four of us played pool in the cellar for some time while Desney was cooking up wonderful things in the kitchen. We had a great time...
Sunday dinner was wonderful and delicious as usual: roast duck, carrots with parsley, courgette with garlic; bread and cheese afterwards… and I was able to eat all of it. It all tasted great and I was just happy to be able to eat with everyone.
Friday, January 06, 2006
TGIF
I sometimes think that Arlene comes here more for the cafés, brasseries and restaurants than anything else. She spent all morning getting ready, as usual, and finished just in time for us to go out for lunch. We took the bus and went to the same brasserie that Alexandra and I used to go to on Wednesdays: Le Cercle by the Asnières train station. We had a very good meal. As we talked I realised how much I take the food we get in restaurants for granted. Arlene told me of the mediocre, and sometimes less than that, food she spent a fortune on in Ireland. I remembered some of the restaurant meals I’ve had in other countries. We both looked down at our plates with a big smile on our face. Although what we were eating was pretty standard fare for France it was certainly superior to what we were referring to and for a hell of a lot less money.
We had spent so long at lunch that we got back home pretty late and I spent the rest of the afternoon asleep.
In the evening we ordered sushi and watched Insomnia which I had rented. Some of us liked it, some of us liked it very much and others found it boring.
We had spent so long at lunch that we got back home pretty late and I spent the rest of the afternoon asleep.
In the evening we ordered sushi and watched Insomnia which I had rented. Some of us liked it, some of us liked it very much and others found it boring.
Thursday, January 05, 2006
She's back!
I went to pick up Arlene from the airport this afternoon. She flew in from Ireland where she had spent New Year’s. It was a good feeling to be able to actually do something. Luckily the drive there and back was quite easy with no traffic. It was a beautifully cold and snowy day but we got back home quite quickly.
The girls were overjoyed to see her again and they all talked back and forth while I had my nap. Desney whipped up roast chicken, corn on the cob and cheese. Arlene had to buy dessert from a bakery of course. The dinner table was rather talkative which allowed me to shut up and concentrate on eating.
The rest of the evening was spent in front of the television with my trying to find things on in English. After everyone went to bed it was just the two of us and it was wonderful to get a chance to talk. It’s a nice feeling having mom around.
The girls were overjoyed to see her again and they all talked back and forth while I had my nap. Desney whipped up roast chicken, corn on the cob and cheese. Arlene had to buy dessert from a bakery of course. The dinner table was rather talkative which allowed me to shut up and concentrate on eating.
The rest of the evening was spent in front of the television with my trying to find things on in English. After everyone went to bed it was just the two of us and it was wonderful to get a chance to talk. It’s a nice feeling having mom around.
Wednesday, January 04, 2006
Toys
Movies
As I have received so many DVDs over the Christmas holidays I had to update my movie collection database. The latest version, as always, is on our server.
Playing around with this, and my book collection database amongst others, brought back the feelings of just how much I love databases. I wish I could explain it without sounding like an accountant trying to explain why he actually enjoys fiscal opportunities (tax breaks) and successfully reconciling a bank statement. It’s like a joke… it just should never be explained. However you know I’m going to try.
I basically love the feeling of taking raw data (letters and numbers in columns and rows linked to a bunch of other letters and numbers in columns and rows) and getting out interesting or useful information which is transformed in to reports and graphs. It’s actually the programming of the query (SQL) necessary to get the information out of the database that I enjoy the most. It’s the simple pleasure of every programmer when a function works. It’s the basic knowledge that the computer has just done something which it would not have been able to do without the amazingly magical piece of programming code you have just written, debugged and executed. It’s like an artistic creation which reaches its final stages. I just plain love it when my programs work. It’s a definite feeling of pride which, embarrassingly enough, borders upon feelings of Godlike power. 25 years later and I still get that more than slight jolt of pleasure every time something I write works.
This is what computers do best. They process tons of raw information and produce more useful summarised information in a way that either would be impossible by humans or would take so much time that the end result would be so incredibly out of date so as to make it completely useless.
It’s my movie database that lets me know that Bernard Lee (“M” in the James Bond series) has appeared as an actor in more movies in our collection than any other; that George Lucas has directed the most movies in our collection; that we have more comedies than any other genre and more arguably useful information such as the fact that I bought most of my movies in 2005 and most of them from Amazon France.
A suburbanite’s dream
I ordered the damn thing on December 5th. They debited my cheque on December 12th. The product was supposed to arrive 6 days later. It didn’t arrive until today, January 4th!
When I was a kid my mother used to take my sister and I out to visit my uncle Don and aunt Shirley in New Jersey. They had a house so this was probably our healthy visit to the country. There are two things I remember most about these trips and they both involve the basement. I don’t know why I remember spending so much time in the basement. Uncle Don used to suddenly look up and say “train coming” and about 30 to 60 seconds later the train would pass. He would even be able to tell us exactly where the train was going. Don had memorised the schedules of the passing trains of course. But I always thought it was a bit magical. But the memory which remains the strongest in my mind is the pool table in the basement. This was the definition of “cool” in my mind at that age and in that era. Pool tables were the “cool” things one found in bars and pool halls. Those were the places I would read about it detective novels and see on television. But to have a pool table in your own house, be able to practice and play whenever you wanted, was just beyond “cool”. Unbeknownst to most people who know me, probably including my wife although there are definitely days when I believe she’s been reading my mind for years, I have always promised myself that I too would get a pool table if ever I got a house. Promises sometimes are kept and dreams sometimes come true.
The delivery guy arrived all on his own. He couldn’t possibly get a 150 kg palette off of the lorry by himself. I therefore had to help him as there was no way I was letting him leave with the thing after waiting so long. I’m not supposed to be lifting anything, and I’m certainly a hell of a lot lighter and weaker than I used to be, but what the doctors don’t know can’t hurt them. After a lot of lifting and tilting we got the thing in to the cellar where it will live. I then called my friend Robbie who came round to help put it together. It actually didn’t take that long to put together and was not that complicated. If Robbie could handle it, with my intellectual assistance of course, it couldn’t have been that complicated. Once we got it built we had to try it out. I lost the first game ever played on my own pool table. But we spent the rest of the evening playing pool. We stopped for dinner of course but then we were back out there going at it again after dinner and until he had to go get the métro home. It was an awful lot of fun and I look forward to the future.
NetCams
Up to now we have 3 NetCams in the house. NetCams are like WebCams except that instead of being plugged in to a computer they are plugged directly in to the network. They are therefore accessible on the network in the house but, as our network is permanently connected to the Internet, they are also accessible from any computer on the Internet anywhere in the world. Two of these NetCams are private. You have to enter a user name and password to use them. They are just next to each of the televisions in our house. One’s in the living room (Salon) and the other’s in the kitchen. Part of their original use was for us to be able to keep track of Alexandra who would constantly watch television when she was supposed to be doing something else. But they actually have come in quite handy since I’ve been sick as they’ve allowed Desney to keep an eye on me and see how I’m doing when I’m either trying to eat in the kitchen or lying down in the living room. The other NetCam is public and anyone can connect to it. They just have to know the address. That’s the NetCam in my office. I refer to that as the Cabinet Derek Erb Cam.
Having added the pool table in the cellar, which also just happens to house our wine collection, I thought it would be a good idea to add a public camera in there. You can now watch us playing pool, whenever that may be, as well as whenever we pop down to pull out a bottle or two or three from the cellar. It’s just a matter of pure luck if you ever actually get to see any of us in there, as it will mostly be pitch black, but it works: I now refer to the Cellar as the Games Room and The Games Room Cam is now online.
Toys
All of these toys and such also help to keep my mind off of my body which is a very, very good thing. The less I think of the pain the more I don’t feel it. Keeping my mind busy is actually probably the best pain killer medical science can provide.
The only difference between a boy and a man is the price of his toys.
As I have received so many DVDs over the Christmas holidays I had to update my movie collection database. The latest version, as always, is on our server.
Playing around with this, and my book collection database amongst others, brought back the feelings of just how much I love databases. I wish I could explain it without sounding like an accountant trying to explain why he actually enjoys fiscal opportunities (tax breaks) and successfully reconciling a bank statement. It’s like a joke… it just should never be explained. However you know I’m going to try.
I basically love the feeling of taking raw data (letters and numbers in columns and rows linked to a bunch of other letters and numbers in columns and rows) and getting out interesting or useful information which is transformed in to reports and graphs. It’s actually the programming of the query (SQL) necessary to get the information out of the database that I enjoy the most. It’s the simple pleasure of every programmer when a function works. It’s the basic knowledge that the computer has just done something which it would not have been able to do without the amazingly magical piece of programming code you have just written, debugged and executed. It’s like an artistic creation which reaches its final stages. I just plain love it when my programs work. It’s a definite feeling of pride which, embarrassingly enough, borders upon feelings of Godlike power. 25 years later and I still get that more than slight jolt of pleasure every time something I write works.
This is what computers do best. They process tons of raw information and produce more useful summarised information in a way that either would be impossible by humans or would take so much time that the end result would be so incredibly out of date so as to make it completely useless.
It’s my movie database that lets me know that Bernard Lee (“M” in the James Bond series) has appeared as an actor in more movies in our collection than any other; that George Lucas has directed the most movies in our collection; that we have more comedies than any other genre and more arguably useful information such as the fact that I bought most of my movies in 2005 and most of them from Amazon France.
A suburbanite’s dream
I ordered the damn thing on December 5th. They debited my cheque on December 12th. The product was supposed to arrive 6 days later. It didn’t arrive until today, January 4th!
When I was a kid my mother used to take my sister and I out to visit my uncle Don and aunt Shirley in New Jersey. They had a house so this was probably our healthy visit to the country. There are two things I remember most about these trips and they both involve the basement. I don’t know why I remember spending so much time in the basement. Uncle Don used to suddenly look up and say “train coming” and about 30 to 60 seconds later the train would pass. He would even be able to tell us exactly where the train was going. Don had memorised the schedules of the passing trains of course. But I always thought it was a bit magical. But the memory which remains the strongest in my mind is the pool table in the basement. This was the definition of “cool” in my mind at that age and in that era. Pool tables were the “cool” things one found in bars and pool halls. Those were the places I would read about it detective novels and see on television. But to have a pool table in your own house, be able to practice and play whenever you wanted, was just beyond “cool”. Unbeknownst to most people who know me, probably including my wife although there are definitely days when I believe she’s been reading my mind for years, I have always promised myself that I too would get a pool table if ever I got a house. Promises sometimes are kept and dreams sometimes come true.
The delivery guy arrived all on his own. He couldn’t possibly get a 150 kg palette off of the lorry by himself. I therefore had to help him as there was no way I was letting him leave with the thing after waiting so long. I’m not supposed to be lifting anything, and I’m certainly a hell of a lot lighter and weaker than I used to be, but what the doctors don’t know can’t hurt them. After a lot of lifting and tilting we got the thing in to the cellar where it will live. I then called my friend Robbie who came round to help put it together. It actually didn’t take that long to put together and was not that complicated. If Robbie could handle it, with my intellectual assistance of course, it couldn’t have been that complicated. Once we got it built we had to try it out. I lost the first game ever played on my own pool table. But we spent the rest of the evening playing pool. We stopped for dinner of course but then we were back out there going at it again after dinner and until he had to go get the métro home. It was an awful lot of fun and I look forward to the future.
NetCams
Up to now we have 3 NetCams in the house. NetCams are like WebCams except that instead of being plugged in to a computer they are plugged directly in to the network. They are therefore accessible on the network in the house but, as our network is permanently connected to the Internet, they are also accessible from any computer on the Internet anywhere in the world. Two of these NetCams are private. You have to enter a user name and password to use them. They are just next to each of the televisions in our house. One’s in the living room (Salon) and the other’s in the kitchen. Part of their original use was for us to be able to keep track of Alexandra who would constantly watch television when she was supposed to be doing something else. But they actually have come in quite handy since I’ve been sick as they’ve allowed Desney to keep an eye on me and see how I’m doing when I’m either trying to eat in the kitchen or lying down in the living room. The other NetCam is public and anyone can connect to it. They just have to know the address. That’s the NetCam in my office. I refer to that as the Cabinet Derek Erb Cam.
Having added the pool table in the cellar, which also just happens to house our wine collection, I thought it would be a good idea to add a public camera in there. You can now watch us playing pool, whenever that may be, as well as whenever we pop down to pull out a bottle or two or three from the cellar. It’s just a matter of pure luck if you ever actually get to see any of us in there, as it will mostly be pitch black, but it works: I now refer to the Cellar as the Games Room and The Games Room Cam is now online.
Toys
All of these toys and such also help to keep my mind off of my body which is a very, very good thing. The less I think of the pain the more I don’t feel it. Keeping my mind busy is actually probably the best pain killer medical science can provide.
The only difference between a boy and a man is the price of his toys.
Sunday, January 01, 2006
New Year's Day
I know I should be happy.
I should be happy to be alive. In many ways I am. I should be happy to be at home with my family rather than alone in a hospital room. In many ways I am.
However my health has gotten progressively worse over the last few days and I’m not happy about it. It’s the same old story. It hurts like hell every time I swallow. That gets really exhausting after a while. I can’t talk. My voice has gotten weaker and weaker, rather than stronger, and when I try and talk for more than a couple of minutes it hurts and I break in to a coughing fit. I cough throughout the day and night. If I cough too much I end up coughing up a rather disgusting ball of saliva that I then have to dispose of. When I cough too much I cry which makes my nose run which means I breathe entirely through my mouth which makes me cough which makes my nose run which….
I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time.
As I’m in pain all the time, luckily at various degrees, I’m angry which makes me bitchy. I’ll bite your head off for asking me to repeat myself because you couldn’t hear me when I too have difficulty hearing myself speak and I’m certainly closer to the orifice performing the oration. I snap or bitch about the slightest thing. I’m sure my family would like to disown me by now.
Resolution: My goal is obviously to get better and to make the end of 2006 better than the end of 2005 which should not be all that difficult.
My resolution however is to appreciate the simple things in life. As soon as I can swallow without pain I will probably spend days sitting around just swallowing with a big smile on my face. When I can talk without pain and without coughing I will try my hardest not to waste the gift of speech by talking as much as I usually do without reason. I am going to appreciate every word which comes out of my mouth. Of course the greatest sensual pleasure of all that I eagerly await is to be able to eat normally and taste my food. I will savour every single mouthful of food and drink from now on.
I should be happy to be alive. In many ways I am. I should be happy to be at home with my family rather than alone in a hospital room. In many ways I am.
However my health has gotten progressively worse over the last few days and I’m not happy about it. It’s the same old story. It hurts like hell every time I swallow. That gets really exhausting after a while. I can’t talk. My voice has gotten weaker and weaker, rather than stronger, and when I try and talk for more than a couple of minutes it hurts and I break in to a coughing fit. I cough throughout the day and night. If I cough too much I end up coughing up a rather disgusting ball of saliva that I then have to dispose of. When I cough too much I cry which makes my nose run which means I breathe entirely through my mouth which makes me cough which makes my nose run which….
I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time.
As I’m in pain all the time, luckily at various degrees, I’m angry which makes me bitchy. I’ll bite your head off for asking me to repeat myself because you couldn’t hear me when I too have difficulty hearing myself speak and I’m certainly closer to the orifice performing the oration. I snap or bitch about the slightest thing. I’m sure my family would like to disown me by now.
Resolution: My goal is obviously to get better and to make the end of 2006 better than the end of 2005 which should not be all that difficult.
My resolution however is to appreciate the simple things in life. As soon as I can swallow without pain I will probably spend days sitting around just swallowing with a big smile on my face. When I can talk without pain and without coughing I will try my hardest not to waste the gift of speech by talking as much as I usually do without reason. I am going to appreciate every word which comes out of my mouth. Of course the greatest sensual pleasure of all that I eagerly await is to be able to eat normally and taste my food. I will savour every single mouthful of food and drink from now on.
Saturday, December 31, 2005
New Year's Eve
Probably our saddest New Year’s Eve ever.
I spent most of the day feeling downright awful. I’ve been coughing and crying constantly and in a lot of pain throughout most of the day. I’m sure the rest of the family is truly sick and tired of listening to me.
I did manage to go out and get the necessary sustenance for the evening. I got 3dozen oysters and 3 dozen of the biggest prawns known to man (from Madagascar). The things looked radioactive they were so big. And they were the medium size! There was one size bigger. The prawns cost a fortune. But as I wasn’t buying lobster this year I didn’t think it was a big deal. There was no point getting lobster if I can’t really taste it or enjoy it. As I’m the only big lobster eater in the family the rest of the family didn’t mind. Desney prepared smoked salmon and all of her delicious sauces to accompany the shellfish and we had a great meal. Unfortunately no one seemed to eat a lot and we’re going to be eating prawns for the next few days. As it was New Year’s and all, and as I have successfully been drinking tea for the past few days, I thought I’d try a tiny glass of wine. I had a sip of our favourite Alsatian’s Gewurztraminer. It tasted delicious in my mouth and was a great feeling. Then I swallowed. The alcohol on the walls of my throat was torture and I cried for a few seconds both in pain and the realisation that I ain’t there yet.
Desney hadn’t been feeling well most of the day as well… extremely tired probably due to my keeping her up at night. Luckily for Jessica she was invited to a party at a family we know well. After dinner I drove Jessica to the party. I’m glad we let her go as I’m sure she had some fun with people in a party atmosphere and mood. Alex and I sat up until midnight watching a sort of circus on television and hugged each other Happy New Year. I sent out about a dozen textos wishing friends and family Happy New Year and went to bed….
I spent most of the day feeling downright awful. I’ve been coughing and crying constantly and in a lot of pain throughout most of the day. I’m sure the rest of the family is truly sick and tired of listening to me.
I did manage to go out and get the necessary sustenance for the evening. I got 3dozen oysters and 3 dozen of the biggest prawns known to man (from Madagascar). The things looked radioactive they were so big. And they were the medium size! There was one size bigger. The prawns cost a fortune. But as I wasn’t buying lobster this year I didn’t think it was a big deal. There was no point getting lobster if I can’t really taste it or enjoy it. As I’m the only big lobster eater in the family the rest of the family didn’t mind. Desney prepared smoked salmon and all of her delicious sauces to accompany the shellfish and we had a great meal. Unfortunately no one seemed to eat a lot and we’re going to be eating prawns for the next few days. As it was New Year’s and all, and as I have successfully been drinking tea for the past few days, I thought I’d try a tiny glass of wine. I had a sip of our favourite Alsatian’s Gewurztraminer. It tasted delicious in my mouth and was a great feeling. Then I swallowed. The alcohol on the walls of my throat was torture and I cried for a few seconds both in pain and the realisation that I ain’t there yet.
Desney hadn’t been feeling well most of the day as well… extremely tired probably due to my keeping her up at night. Luckily for Jessica she was invited to a party at a family we know well. After dinner I drove Jessica to the party. I’m glad we let her go as I’m sure she had some fun with people in a party atmosphere and mood. Alex and I sat up until midnight watching a sort of circus on television and hugged each other Happy New Year. I sent out about a dozen textos wishing friends and family Happy New Year and went to bed….
Friday, December 30, 2005
Another Friday night
We spent the evening watching a movie as usual. However rather than take out Desney prepared us all sorts of snack food (hot and cold) to eat during the movie (hot sausages, pizza bits, chicken wings, crisps, salsa sauce, nuts, …).
This evening we watched one of the movies Arlene had bought for us when she was here: Million Dollar Baby. I loved it and thought it was a beautiful movie. The rest of my family was baffled as to how the movie won so many awards. There was no action to speak of, the lead characters weren’t beautiful, there weren’t any well-defined bad guys and good guys, there were no spectacular special effects, there weren’t even cute one-liners throughout: where is the merit?
After the movie, and after Alex had gone to sleep, Jessica and I played a game that Arlene got me for Christmas: The Da Vinci Quest. It’s sort of a trivial pursuit with references throughout to Da Vinci, the Renaissance period, the quest for the grail, various relevant mythological references, … It was quite fun and I think Jessica did better than she thought she would. I won, of course, but it’s only the first time we’ve played.
Next time we'll play it with Arlene!
This evening we watched one of the movies Arlene had bought for us when she was here: Million Dollar Baby. I loved it and thought it was a beautiful movie. The rest of my family was baffled as to how the movie won so many awards. There was no action to speak of, the lead characters weren’t beautiful, there weren’t any well-defined bad guys and good guys, there were no spectacular special effects, there weren’t even cute one-liners throughout: where is the merit?
After the movie, and after Alex had gone to sleep, Jessica and I played a game that Arlene got me for Christmas: The Da Vinci Quest. It’s sort of a trivial pursuit with references throughout to Da Vinci, the Renaissance period, the quest for the grail, various relevant mythological references, … It was quite fun and I think Jessica did better than she thought she would. I won, of course, but it’s only the first time we’ve played.
Next time we'll play it with Arlene!
Wednesday, December 28, 2005
A Good Day
A landmark evening. First of all I slept in my bed with my wife. It’s not what you think… we’re not talking biblical knowledge or anything. But the simple pleasure of sleeping with my wife. What was landmark was the fact that I slept through the entire evening, until about 09:30, without any coughing attacks and without having to get up in the middle of the night. I would cough every now and then throughout the night but it was more than bearable. I woke up stunned and pleasantly surprised.
The morning was reasonably tense as we were all preparing the departure of my in-laws for the airport just after noon. They left on time, got to the airport early and apparently their flight went well.
As I had received the last accounting information I needed from my account I spent most of the afternoon working on our very, very late tax declaration. It was a great feeling to finally finish that, sign it and get it in an envelope ready to go tomorrow.
Dinner went down well and I’m definitely starting to enjoy ice cream again for dessert. Another landmark, to the great pleasure of my British wife, was that I was able to drink a cup of tea after dinner. Not only was it not painful but I could actually taste the tea and it was quite enjoyable. I should be cured within a week as any Brit can tell you that a cup of tea will cure anything… probably even cancer. One only has to watch the BBC for a day or so to realise. They have tons of medical programs (Casualty, Doctors, Holby City, …) and in each it doesn’t matter what the patient is suffering from, and sometimes even the health specialists, everyone needs and gets a “cuppa”.
In the evening Jess and I sat around and watched Swordfish which I had rented from DVD Fly. I needed to watch it so as to send it off and get my next allotment of films. I thought it would be too violent for Alex and therefore we should watch it without her. I was wrong. From a genre point of view it was standard Joel Silver-produced action thriller stuff. However great actors (John Travolta, Hugh Jackman, Halle Berry, Don Cheadle, …) having a great time. It was definitely worth it. But it should have been one of our family Friday evening fun flicks.
The morning was reasonably tense as we were all preparing the departure of my in-laws for the airport just after noon. They left on time, got to the airport early and apparently their flight went well.
As I had received the last accounting information I needed from my account I spent most of the afternoon working on our very, very late tax declaration. It was a great feeling to finally finish that, sign it and get it in an envelope ready to go tomorrow.
Dinner went down well and I’m definitely starting to enjoy ice cream again for dessert. Another landmark, to the great pleasure of my British wife, was that I was able to drink a cup of tea after dinner. Not only was it not painful but I could actually taste the tea and it was quite enjoyable. I should be cured within a week as any Brit can tell you that a cup of tea will cure anything… probably even cancer. One only has to watch the BBC for a day or so to realise. They have tons of medical programs (Casualty, Doctors, Holby City, …) and in each it doesn’t matter what the patient is suffering from, and sometimes even the health specialists, everyone needs and gets a “cuppa”.
In the evening Jess and I sat around and watched Swordfish which I had rented from DVD Fly. I needed to watch it so as to send it off and get my next allotment of films. I thought it would be too violent for Alex and therefore we should watch it without her. I was wrong. From a genre point of view it was standard Joel Silver-produced action thriller stuff. However great actors (John Travolta, Hugh Jackman, Halle Berry, Don Cheadle, …) having a great time. It was definitely worth it. But it should have been one of our family Friday evening fun flicks.
Monday, December 26, 2005
Boxing Day
A definitely better night! I got up at 3 but that was just nature calling. There is an obvious side-effect to drinking water all day. But I slept through until 07:30 only coughing maybe three times in the night. The difference was I tried sleeping more horizontally this time rather than sitting up. I'm going to try again tomorrow night, on the couch, and if it works I'll be able to sleep with my wife again which is priceless.
The rest of the day was quite uneventful, as Boxing Day should be. We just sat around all day watching TV or reading or doing puzzles (crosswords, sudokus, ...). Desney got me a set of DVDs of Buster Keaton shorts. They're wonderful classis. I watched the first couple of shorts which were actually Fatty Arbuckle shorts with Buster Keaton having a small role. I've always found Fatty to be rather grotesque. But my opinion may be biased by the knowledge of the various rape and other sex crimes he was falsely accused of. I can't wait to get up to the "real" Keaton shorts.
Alexandra got me a boxed set of Marx Brothers DVDs which I want to watch with the kids. Desney and I realised recently how many of our classic film references our kids are not aware of. This is in part due to the fact that we don't live in an Anglophone country and therefore do not get the classics on tele. I am going to love rewatching the classics, explaining the references and period information while obliging the kids to sit through the entire films even though they can't see how anyone could possibly find any of this even remotely funny.
For dinner Desney took the leftover turkey and made us a delicious turkey pie. Dessert was leftover Christmas logs and chocolate. Sometimes leftovers can be better than a normally prepared meal.
The rest of the day was quite uneventful, as Boxing Day should be. We just sat around all day watching TV or reading or doing puzzles (crosswords, sudokus, ...). Desney got me a set of DVDs of Buster Keaton shorts. They're wonderful classis. I watched the first couple of shorts which were actually Fatty Arbuckle shorts with Buster Keaton having a small role. I've always found Fatty to be rather grotesque. But my opinion may be biased by the knowledge of the various rape and other sex crimes he was falsely accused of. I can't wait to get up to the "real" Keaton shorts.
Alexandra got me a boxed set of Marx Brothers DVDs which I want to watch with the kids. Desney and I realised recently how many of our classic film references our kids are not aware of. This is in part due to the fact that we don't live in an Anglophone country and therefore do not get the classics on tele. I am going to love rewatching the classics, explaining the references and period information while obliging the kids to sit through the entire films even though they can't see how anyone could possibly find any of this even remotely funny.
For dinner Desney took the leftover turkey and made us a delicious turkey pie. Dessert was leftover Christmas logs and chocolate. Sometimes leftovers can be better than a normally prepared meal.
Sunday, December 25, 2005
Christmas Day
Another night on the couch. I got up real early, before 7, to get out of the living room before Alex gets up. But we still spent a wonderful Christmas morning of sitting 'round in pyjamas and dressing gowns and opening presents. The most fun is still watching the youngest, Alexandra, and her excitement.
The rest of the day is then spent cleaning up and playing with one's presents. I have to admit that this year I have been completely out of the Christmas spirit. I just haven't been able to think about the holidays this year. I therefore just couldn't come up with any ideas for presents for myself this year... except for the obvious... a new throat. I therefore didn't get anything to play with this year. I did get a ton of DVDs to watch. Now all I need is to be alloed to actually watch what I want to on the tele. It should take between now and the next century for me to get to watch all of these.
Snacks throughout the day and our classic endless game of Euro Monopoly. This year with six of us the dynamic was quite changed. Luckily I lost early and excused myself to nap while they continued on. From my understanding Alex won this year to her great pleasure.
The rest of the day is then spent cleaning up and playing with one's presents. I have to admit that this year I have been completely out of the Christmas spirit. I just haven't been able to think about the holidays this year. I therefore just couldn't come up with any ideas for presents for myself this year... except for the obvious... a new throat. I therefore didn't get anything to play with this year. I did get a ton of DVDs to watch. Now all I need is to be alloed to actually watch what I want to on the tele. It should take between now and the next century for me to get to watch all of these.
Snacks throughout the day and our classic endless game of Euro Monopoly. This year with six of us the dynamic was quite changed. Luckily I lost early and excused myself to nap while they continued on. From my understanding Alex won this year to her great pleasure.
Saturday, December 24, 2005
Christmas Eve
Another better and worse night. It was better in that I didn't have any full cough attacks. However it was worse in that I coughed non-stop throughout the night. I would cough about every 10 minutes again and again. It started at about 1 in the morning. By 3 I pulled myself out of bed and went to sleep on the couch so Desney could get some sleep.
As always happens on this day Desney started with shopping and spent the rest of the day cooking in the kichen. Of course we all were blessed with roast turkey, her cranberry & port sauce, chestnut stuffing, peas & carrots and her gratin dauphinois. We started the meal with her home made foie gras. Everyone seemed to enjoy the Château le Fagé (Monbazillac). The food was plentiful and delicious. I was able to eat most. Everybody seemed to enjoy the 2000 Fleurie as well. Dessert was Christmas logs of all flavours.
Normally my job is to keep the kids occupied and out of the kitchen. As the grandparents were here I left that job to them. I worked on my accounting and bookkeeping responsibilities and slept.
Once the kids had gone to bed came my favouite part of putting the gifts under the tree. I still remember the wonderful and strange experience the first time of passing from the side of the eternally receiving child to that of the omnipotent and eternally giving parent...
As always happens on this day Desney started with shopping and spent the rest of the day cooking in the kichen. Of course we all were blessed with roast turkey, her cranberry & port sauce, chestnut stuffing, peas & carrots and her gratin dauphinois. We started the meal with her home made foie gras. Everyone seemed to enjoy the Château le Fagé (Monbazillac). The food was plentiful and delicious. I was able to eat most. Everybody seemed to enjoy the 2000 Fleurie as well. Dessert was Christmas logs of all flavours.
Normally my job is to keep the kids occupied and out of the kitchen. As the grandparents were here I left that job to them. I worked on my accounting and bookkeeping responsibilities and slept.
Once the kids had gone to bed came my favouite part of putting the gifts under the tree. I still remember the wonderful and strange experience the first time of passing from the side of the eternally receiving child to that of the omnipotent and eternally giving parent...
Friday, December 23, 2005
The day before the day before
Desney spent a good deal of yesterday afternoon preparing foie gras. It's always a pleasure watching her meticulously pulling out the veins and blood bits and then making each liver into a beautiful roll with a lovely thick layer of yellow fat. I can't wait to see if I can taste it at all.
In the evening we had steak with foie gras sauce. The sauce was frozen but a delicious sneak preview of good things to come this season. I was able to eat well which made me feel quite satisfied. I even had some ice cream, for the first time in quite a while, which went down quite well.
The night was both better and worse. It was better in that I only got up once (02:00). But it was worse in that the attack I had at 2 was probably the worst I've had yet. The coughing was the most painful yet and I even very briefly contemplated throwing my body in to the car and going to the E.R. It just didn't seem like it would end. I sat up crying, coughing, drooling and with my nose running like a fountain. A beautiful sight. Thankfully it did subside and I slept until 07:30.
Today Desney was out and about doing lots oh shopping and preparing. She never stops. I spent part of the day trying to get food down. My throat hurt much more than usual. I then spent some time with bookkeeping and accounting.
As someone, with impeccable timing, is pulling the strings in my life I had my first tax audit which started before I even got out of hospital after my second surgery. My biggest worry was maintaining my clients' confidentiality and I was proud and pleased to do so even better than I thought. My accountant's main worry was covering her own ass which she did reasonably well. After many weeks of audit they found something to make their quota: many Internet transactions do not produce invoices. They are not a legal requirement for all transactions in America for example. I have to produce the invoices or those expenses will be excluded and added back on to my profit. For certain expenses, such as my web-hosting subcontractors, it's just a matter of time and tedious work of downloading and printing a few hundred invoice to cover 2000 through 2005. However for other companies, such as Internet fax services (JFax), domain names (Register.com) and digital certificates (Verisign), all I can do is write to themand beg. I received the results of my audit today with the figures of how much I stand to lose if I can't produce the goods. The problem is that France just doesn't accept that other countries don't do business in exactly the same fashion and they are, as usual, not willing to adapt. I really needed something else to worry about right now...
Tonight was our standard Friday night at home with a movie and take out. Only this time there were six of us. We called out from Pizza Hut and watched Pirates of the Carribean (first time for the Wilkinsons and the Nth time for the Erbs). Quite a bit of fun.
This entry is actually an experiment. I have written it entirely on my Palm TX and am going to publish it with the Palm as well.
[PS: It didn’t work. The entry was too long. I tried to publish it in bits, with copying and pasting and appending, but that didn’t work either. In the end I transferred the Word file I had created on my Palm to my network, with WiFile, and then uploaded it normally.]
In the evening we had steak with foie gras sauce. The sauce was frozen but a delicious sneak preview of good things to come this season. I was able to eat well which made me feel quite satisfied. I even had some ice cream, for the first time in quite a while, which went down quite well.
The night was both better and worse. It was better in that I only got up once (02:00). But it was worse in that the attack I had at 2 was probably the worst I've had yet. The coughing was the most painful yet and I even very briefly contemplated throwing my body in to the car and going to the E.R. It just didn't seem like it would end. I sat up crying, coughing, drooling and with my nose running like a fountain. A beautiful sight. Thankfully it did subside and I slept until 07:30.
Today Desney was out and about doing lots oh shopping and preparing. She never stops. I spent part of the day trying to get food down. My throat hurt much more than usual. I then spent some time with bookkeeping and accounting.
As someone, with impeccable timing, is pulling the strings in my life I had my first tax audit which started before I even got out of hospital after my second surgery. My biggest worry was maintaining my clients' confidentiality and I was proud and pleased to do so even better than I thought. My accountant's main worry was covering her own ass which she did reasonably well. After many weeks of audit they found something to make their quota: many Internet transactions do not produce invoices. They are not a legal requirement for all transactions in America for example. I have to produce the invoices or those expenses will be excluded and added back on to my profit. For certain expenses, such as my web-hosting subcontractors, it's just a matter of time and tedious work of downloading and printing a few hundred invoice to cover 2000 through 2005. However for other companies, such as Internet fax services (JFax), domain names (Register.com) and digital certificates (Verisign), all I can do is write to themand beg. I received the results of my audit today with the figures of how much I stand to lose if I can't produce the goods. The problem is that France just doesn't accept that other countries don't do business in exactly the same fashion and they are, as usual, not willing to adapt. I really needed something else to worry about right now...
Tonight was our standard Friday night at home with a movie and take out. Only this time there were six of us. We called out from Pizza Hut and watched Pirates of the Carribean (first time for the Wilkinsons and the Nth time for the Erbs). Quite a bit of fun.
This entry is actually an experiment. I have written it entirely on my Palm TX and am going to publish it with the Palm as well.
[PS: It didn’t work. The entry was too long. I tried to publish it in bits, with copying and pasting and appending, but that didn’t work either. In the end I transferred the Word file I had created on my Palm to my network, with WiFile, and then uploaded it normally.]
Thursday, December 22, 2005
The British are coming!
A phrase I remember oh so well. Paul Revere supposedly galloped up and down the streets one night shouting “The British are coming! The British are coming!”. I remember it because I was a big Paul Revere fan. My elementary school was named after him.
I use the phrase when my in-laws are coming to visit us. But it’s rather silly because the Brits are already here. Three out of four members of my family ARE British. Then again three out of four members of my family are American. Desney and I are the only mono-nationality members, Alexandra is dual-nationality (for the moment) and Jessica is triple-nationality.
The Wilkinsons arrived yesterday afternoon. Desney went to pick them up at the airport. They seemed very pleased to be here and their trip went well. They got the tour of the house and the kids then began their usual non-stop demands for attention. I left them to it and went to sleep in our bedroom.
The night before was the first night I slept in our bed, with Desney, in many weeks. Poor Desney. Although I only got out of bed once I spent most of the evening coughing and retching and I’m afraid neither of us got a lot of sleep. I am able to catch up with a nap in the afternoon but she isn’t. She never stops. I felt bad about it but I also felt quite helpless as I tend to feel during these moments. With most of my health situation I feel helpless. It’s like there’s someone else pulling the strings and every now and then he just jerks one and I suddenly cough up. After coughing I tend to hit something like the wall or a table. It’s a release from the pain but it’s also subconsciously probably what I’d like to do to whoever is pulling the strings.
I’m able to eat reasonably well. I had eggs and yogurt for breakfast and my now classic Rénutryl for lunch. But I’m still not gaining weight and even lose a few hundred grams every now and then. It brings back strange memories. Most people who know me as an adult would find it difficult to believe. But when I was a child, and especially an adolescent, I would try very hard to gain weight. I wasn’t weak. I had the right muscles in the right places. But I just wasn’t bulky. A very strange and awkward combination of broad shoulders, short arms and a basically squat form without the weight. It’s been a long time that I haven’t been in the mind frame of trying actively to gain weight. It’s quite fun actually. I can eat anything I want. I just wish food tasted better and it didn’t hurt so much to swallow.
We had fresh mussels for dinner along with chips. With Desney’s wonderful cream sauce they went down easily and I just kept eating… The rest of the family appeared to enjoy it as well and the André Ehrhart Gewurztraminer (Herrenweg) appeared to go down just as well as the mussels. The wine smelled wonderful and looked great in the glass.
I slept with my wife again, as it should be, and it was only a slightly better night. But it was better rather than worse.
Today everyone, except my father-in-law Bill, headed out to La Défense for the Christmas market and last minute Christmas shopping. They appear to have had a great time spending money which is such an important part of the Christmas spirit.
I use the phrase when my in-laws are coming to visit us. But it’s rather silly because the Brits are already here. Three out of four members of my family ARE British. Then again three out of four members of my family are American. Desney and I are the only mono-nationality members, Alexandra is dual-nationality (for the moment) and Jessica is triple-nationality.
The Wilkinsons arrived yesterday afternoon. Desney went to pick them up at the airport. They seemed very pleased to be here and their trip went well. They got the tour of the house and the kids then began their usual non-stop demands for attention. I left them to it and went to sleep in our bedroom.
The night before was the first night I slept in our bed, with Desney, in many weeks. Poor Desney. Although I only got out of bed once I spent most of the evening coughing and retching and I’m afraid neither of us got a lot of sleep. I am able to catch up with a nap in the afternoon but she isn’t. She never stops. I felt bad about it but I also felt quite helpless as I tend to feel during these moments. With most of my health situation I feel helpless. It’s like there’s someone else pulling the strings and every now and then he just jerks one and I suddenly cough up. After coughing I tend to hit something like the wall or a table. It’s a release from the pain but it’s also subconsciously probably what I’d like to do to whoever is pulling the strings.
I’m able to eat reasonably well. I had eggs and yogurt for breakfast and my now classic Rénutryl for lunch. But I’m still not gaining weight and even lose a few hundred grams every now and then. It brings back strange memories. Most people who know me as an adult would find it difficult to believe. But when I was a child, and especially an adolescent, I would try very hard to gain weight. I wasn’t weak. I had the right muscles in the right places. But I just wasn’t bulky. A very strange and awkward combination of broad shoulders, short arms and a basically squat form without the weight. It’s been a long time that I haven’t been in the mind frame of trying actively to gain weight. It’s quite fun actually. I can eat anything I want. I just wish food tasted better and it didn’t hurt so much to swallow.
We had fresh mussels for dinner along with chips. With Desney’s wonderful cream sauce they went down easily and I just kept eating… The rest of the family appeared to enjoy it as well and the André Ehrhart Gewurztraminer (Herrenweg) appeared to go down just as well as the mussels. The wine smelled wonderful and looked great in the glass.
I slept with my wife again, as it should be, and it was only a slightly better night. But it was better rather than worse.
Today everyone, except my father-in-law Bill, headed out to La Défense for the Christmas market and last minute Christmas shopping. They appear to have had a great time spending money which is such an important part of the Christmas spirit.
Tuesday, December 20, 2005
Dr. Kanoui... for the last time
Today was my final consultation with Dr. Kanoui and I actually hope it's the last time I have to see him.
Dr. Mammar had said, when we met with him on the 10th, that it was ridiculous to be seeing Dr. Kanoui only 10 days after the end of treatment and that my next visit should be at least a month later. There's nothing to see as he said.
I went out to the American Hospital where Dr. Kanoui apparently consults when he isn't at the Clinique Hartmann and when he wants to make more money. He examined my throat very quickly as I still have a really bad vomiting reflex which doesn't allow any one to shove anything in my throat without anesthesizing it first. He looked around my mouth and throat and then massaged my throat looking for tumours. He didn't find anything.
He then dictated a letter to the file and then another to Dr. Hagege who I should see in about a month. All of the followup will be done with Dr. Hagege, which I am pleased about, and I will organise.
Dr. Kanoui asked that Dr. Hagege keep him informed of my progress for his own personal pleasure. He filled out the necessary forms and charged me 100 euros and I was out the door.
A total and complete waste of my time and energy and just an excuse for Dr. Kanoui to get a little extra in before the holidays.
Dr. Mammar had said, when we met with him on the 10th, that it was ridiculous to be seeing Dr. Kanoui only 10 days after the end of treatment and that my next visit should be at least a month later. There's nothing to see as he said.
I went out to the American Hospital where Dr. Kanoui apparently consults when he isn't at the Clinique Hartmann and when he wants to make more money. He examined my throat very quickly as I still have a really bad vomiting reflex which doesn't allow any one to shove anything in my throat without anesthesizing it first. He looked around my mouth and throat and then massaged my throat looking for tumours. He didn't find anything.
He then dictated a letter to the file and then another to Dr. Hagege who I should see in about a month. All of the followup will be done with Dr. Hagege, which I am pleased about, and I will organise.
Dr. Kanoui asked that Dr. Hagege keep him informed of my progress for his own personal pleasure. He filled out the necessary forms and charged me 100 euros and I was out the door.
A total and complete waste of my time and energy and just an excuse for Dr. Kanoui to get a little extra in before the holidays.
Ever so slightly... better
Today was not worse than yesterday and yesterday was not worse than the day before. The days are not the same either. They therefore must be… better. The difference is infinitesimal. But it’s positive…
Almost all of the mouth sores in my mouth and on my tongue are going away. That’s making it much easier for me to eat. I’m now able to eat at least one of my Rénutryl’s each day which should stop me losing any more weight.
I only awake 2 times a night now rather than 3. The first bout of sleep can sometimes last up to 4 hours. In between I still cough and I still cough up a ball of saliva eventually. But it’s better rather than worse.
The constant pain in the throat is pretty stationary. But breathing is easier. I still have no voice. Talking hurts and makes me cough. But I just avoid talking to the great pleasure of those around me.
The main improvement is that I can eat more and more and easier and easier now.
Now I just have to try and relax through the holidays…
Almost all of the mouth sores in my mouth and on my tongue are going away. That’s making it much easier for me to eat. I’m now able to eat at least one of my Rénutryl’s each day which should stop me losing any more weight.
I only awake 2 times a night now rather than 3. The first bout of sleep can sometimes last up to 4 hours. In between I still cough and I still cough up a ball of saliva eventually. But it’s better rather than worse.
The constant pain in the throat is pretty stationary. But breathing is easier. I still have no voice. Talking hurts and makes me cough. But I just avoid talking to the great pleasure of those around me.
The main improvement is that I can eat more and more and easier and easier now.
Now I just have to try and relax through the holidays…
Sunday, December 18, 2005
Back from the ....
I feel like I’ve been in a coma for the past week or so. I actually probably would have preferred to have been. I really was hoping they were going to give me some wonderful drugs that would knock me out, or at least keep me pleasantly happy, throughout this period while I just wait for my body to retaliate and recuperate. Things have gotten worse each day. I can’t say things have gotten better yet. But I can say they’ve stopped getting worse which is already a major step forward. I’ve got to start getting better soon…
Time has passed…
Desney went out and got a new bed for her office/our guest room as my in-laws are arriving in a couple of days to spend Christmas with us. There’s no risk of my saying the wrong thing while they’re here as I can’t say much of anything at the moment. It should be their calmest trip ever.
I replaced the OfficeJet in her office with a new OfficeJet 7410 which is plugged directly on the network rather than to her computer. This means less work for her computer. But, more importantly, it means we now have a network printer on each floor. Every computer in the house can print to a printer on any of the floors. It also means we finally have a scanner and memory card reader on the network available to any of the computers. This means the girls’ computers can now scan and read memory cards from digital cameras.
Desney, Jessica and Alexandra went out and got the Christmas tree yesterday. For the first time in the history of our family I didn’t carry the tree home. Desney and Jessica carried it home from down the road which is a sight I certainly would have loved to have seen. I assume the entire neighbourhood heard the two of them “communicating” with each other. It took a while to get the tree stabilised as we had to cut a bit off the bottom. Desney was kind enough to spend the time putting the lights up as Alexandra could not possibly wait to get the decorations on. Once the lights were on we put on our classic Christmas music (Nat “King” Cole, carols, jazz Christmas, …) and put the decorations on the tree. It’s now proudly standing in the entrance of the home.
I sold off quite a few of my old versions of my tools (Palm T3, TomTom Go, Bluetooth handsfree car phone system, …) on eBay and finalised the transactions this week. That brought in a bit of extra cash for the holidays which is sorely needed. The old OfficeJet PSC, from Desney’s office, is next…
As all of my thoughts tend to be focused on getting through the day and getting food and medication in me I am having great difficulty getting in to the holiday spirit…
I’m just glad to be able to be here and celebrate the holidays at all…
Time has passed…
Desney went out and got a new bed for her office/our guest room as my in-laws are arriving in a couple of days to spend Christmas with us. There’s no risk of my saying the wrong thing while they’re here as I can’t say much of anything at the moment. It should be their calmest trip ever.
I replaced the OfficeJet in her office with a new OfficeJet 7410 which is plugged directly on the network rather than to her computer. This means less work for her computer. But, more importantly, it means we now have a network printer on each floor. Every computer in the house can print to a printer on any of the floors. It also means we finally have a scanner and memory card reader on the network available to any of the computers. This means the girls’ computers can now scan and read memory cards from digital cameras.
Desney, Jessica and Alexandra went out and got the Christmas tree yesterday. For the first time in the history of our family I didn’t carry the tree home. Desney and Jessica carried it home from down the road which is a sight I certainly would have loved to have seen. I assume the entire neighbourhood heard the two of them “communicating” with each other. It took a while to get the tree stabilised as we had to cut a bit off the bottom. Desney was kind enough to spend the time putting the lights up as Alexandra could not possibly wait to get the decorations on. Once the lights were on we put on our classic Christmas music (Nat “King” Cole, carols, jazz Christmas, …) and put the decorations on the tree. It’s now proudly standing in the entrance of the home.I sold off quite a few of my old versions of my tools (Palm T3, TomTom Go, Bluetooth handsfree car phone system, …) on eBay and finalised the transactions this week. That brought in a bit of extra cash for the holidays which is sorely needed. The old OfficeJet PSC, from Desney’s office, is next…
As all of my thoughts tend to be focused on getting through the day and getting food and medication in me I am having great difficulty getting in to the holiday spirit…
I’m just glad to be able to be here and celebrate the holidays at all…
Thursday, December 15, 2005
Worse
They said "It'll get worse before it gets better". I hate it when they're right.
I also wish I could say that now it's getting better which is why I'm writing. Unfortunately I'm writing just so people stop thinking I'm either dead or back in the hospital!
Ever since the treatment stopped everything's gone downhill. The pain is constant. My throat hurts beyond belief when swallowing and now hurts every time I breathe through my mouth. The constant retching makes me cry all the time which makes my nose run all the time which blocks up my breathing even more. Added to all of this I now have a mouth full of mouth sores which is a cumulated reaction from the chemotherapy and radiation. The sores, on the outside edges of my tongue and on the inside of my cheek, make it so it stings horribly to put just about anything in my mouth (including my Rénutryl drink) and I can't open my mouth more than about 1/3. This is making it extremely difficult to eat. I'm eating less. Which means I'm losing weight again (a bit) and don't have a lot of energy to get up and do things.
Nights are endless, mornings are painful, evenings are dreaded... There's a good pocket in the middle of the afternoon...
I see Dr. Kanoui on 20/12 at which point I hope to be on the upswing. If I'm not I may get physically violent with him, with what's left of my energy, just out of pure frustration.
The kids are caring and a bit weary of me. But Desney, as always, is taking amazing care of me. They are the reason I am here and happy to be so.
I apologise for not writing more often at the moment and will try and do so when I can.
I also wish I could say that now it's getting better which is why I'm writing. Unfortunately I'm writing just so people stop thinking I'm either dead or back in the hospital!
Ever since the treatment stopped everything's gone downhill. The pain is constant. My throat hurts beyond belief when swallowing and now hurts every time I breathe through my mouth. The constant retching makes me cry all the time which makes my nose run all the time which blocks up my breathing even more. Added to all of this I now have a mouth full of mouth sores which is a cumulated reaction from the chemotherapy and radiation. The sores, on the outside edges of my tongue and on the inside of my cheek, make it so it stings horribly to put just about anything in my mouth (including my Rénutryl drink) and I can't open my mouth more than about 1/3. This is making it extremely difficult to eat. I'm eating less. Which means I'm losing weight again (a bit) and don't have a lot of energy to get up and do things.
Nights are endless, mornings are painful, evenings are dreaded... There's a good pocket in the middle of the afternoon...
I see Dr. Kanoui on 20/12 at which point I hope to be on the upswing. If I'm not I may get physically violent with him, with what's left of my energy, just out of pure frustration.
The kids are caring and a bit weary of me. But Desney, as always, is taking amazing care of me. They are the reason I am here and happy to be so.
I apologise for not writing more often at the moment and will try and do so when I can.
Saturday, December 10, 2005
The day after the end of treatment
A slight improvement in the night in that I slept through until about 05:30 before the coughing fits started. I finally got up around 08:00 when i had just had a enough of sitting on the couch crying and coughing every 5 minutes.
I can remember not that long ago, maybe a few days ago, writing how it was the worst morning yet. Well, unfortunately, today topped any other before it. This was officially my worst morning since surgery. The pain, the coughing and retching, the crying, the pain and the shivers just would not stop. I just kept trying to get food down me, past the throat barrier and without throwing it back up, and get through the waves of pain. My throat is just absolutely on fire. It feels as though a hole has been burned in to the back of my mouth on the roof of my mouth and food now gets stuck up there on the way to the throat. The throat itself is just a pit of burning fire. The inside of my cheeks now have spots on them which make it very difficult for me to open my mouth more than halfway. My tongue has spots on both the left and right sides which make all food burn. Basically I am an absolute mess.
However I had a goal and an objective for today: No matter what I was going to show up at the End of the Year Market at Jessica's school. I felt that it was time that I saw everybody, even if it was only quickly, and to see how the market went.
When Alexandra got home from school, at about 12:30, I finished up in the kitchen, put some clothes on and off we went. It was a very strange feeling walking in to the school. I normally go every now and then and it's been a long time.
It was a strange, and almost surreal, experience seeing all the parents I know. Everybody was very polite and nice and everyone said I looked better than they thought I would. I can only fear whatever it is they thought I would look like. I put on a smiling and happy face and, although I couldn't really talk, I was able to say hello to just about everybody. There are some people out there, and they know who they are, who it was a real pleasure to see again. People who have made their support felt through kind messages, cards, offers of help and just positive thoughts. It was a very good and supportive feeling to actually see them in person. Hugs are always nice as well {g}.
I couldn't stay long as I got tired pretty quickly. I walked around with a tiny bottle of water to keep my mouth lubricated which worked pretty well. Finally I drove home with Desney and Alex, put myself to bed, and slept the rest of the afternoon.
Unfortunately waking up after my nap was almost as painful as waking up after a night's sleep. The pain and coughing fits were just this side of bearable and just seems to last forever.
Desney made a lovely dinner of pasta with chicken and mushroom cream sauce. I was actually able to taste it and it went down quite well. I couldn't actually eat a lot of it as it was quite painful. But worst of all I remember how well this went with one of our nice Chablis Premier Crus. There's just a wonderful combination of the mineral aspects of the Chablis with the earthy mushrooms and the buttery aspects of the Chablis and the cream sauce with that nice bit of acidity after that a Chablis can have biting nicely with the onion in the cream sauce. Although it tasted good it was slightly disappointing and more than slightly frustrating.
Jessica went off for her first night of babysitting. We couldn't ask for a better situation however as she was babysitting for a couple who literally live around the corner. Jess ate early and left amidst the screams of her parents, with as much as I could scream, to get her out of the house as she was late for her first night ever babysitting and more importantly her first night working for this couple.
Desney went to be relatively early (22:30) and I stayed up and didn't watch television. It was just basically on in the background. I was up when Jessica got home (00:30) and finally got to sleep around 01:00...
I can remember not that long ago, maybe a few days ago, writing how it was the worst morning yet. Well, unfortunately, today topped any other before it. This was officially my worst morning since surgery. The pain, the coughing and retching, the crying, the pain and the shivers just would not stop. I just kept trying to get food down me, past the throat barrier and without throwing it back up, and get through the waves of pain. My throat is just absolutely on fire. It feels as though a hole has been burned in to the back of my mouth on the roof of my mouth and food now gets stuck up there on the way to the throat. The throat itself is just a pit of burning fire. The inside of my cheeks now have spots on them which make it very difficult for me to open my mouth more than halfway. My tongue has spots on both the left and right sides which make all food burn. Basically I am an absolute mess.
However I had a goal and an objective for today: No matter what I was going to show up at the End of the Year Market at Jessica's school. I felt that it was time that I saw everybody, even if it was only quickly, and to see how the market went.
When Alexandra got home from school, at about 12:30, I finished up in the kitchen, put some clothes on and off we went. It was a very strange feeling walking in to the school. I normally go every now and then and it's been a long time.
It was a strange, and almost surreal, experience seeing all the parents I know. Everybody was very polite and nice and everyone said I looked better than they thought I would. I can only fear whatever it is they thought I would look like. I put on a smiling and happy face and, although I couldn't really talk, I was able to say hello to just about everybody. There are some people out there, and they know who they are, who it was a real pleasure to see again. People who have made their support felt through kind messages, cards, offers of help and just positive thoughts. It was a very good and supportive feeling to actually see them in person. Hugs are always nice as well {g}.
I couldn't stay long as I got tired pretty quickly. I walked around with a tiny bottle of water to keep my mouth lubricated which worked pretty well. Finally I drove home with Desney and Alex, put myself to bed, and slept the rest of the afternoon.
Unfortunately waking up after my nap was almost as painful as waking up after a night's sleep. The pain and coughing fits were just this side of bearable and just seems to last forever.
Desney made a lovely dinner of pasta with chicken and mushroom cream sauce. I was actually able to taste it and it went down quite well. I couldn't actually eat a lot of it as it was quite painful. But worst of all I remember how well this went with one of our nice Chablis Premier Crus. There's just a wonderful combination of the mineral aspects of the Chablis with the earthy mushrooms and the buttery aspects of the Chablis and the cream sauce with that nice bit of acidity after that a Chablis can have biting nicely with the onion in the cream sauce. Although it tasted good it was slightly disappointing and more than slightly frustrating.
Jessica went off for her first night of babysitting. We couldn't ask for a better situation however as she was babysitting for a couple who literally live around the corner. Jess ate early and left amidst the screams of her parents, with as much as I could scream, to get her out of the house as she was late for her first night ever babysitting and more importantly her first night working for this couple.
Desney went to be relatively early (22:30) and I stayed up and didn't watch television. It was just basically on in the background. I was up when Jessica got home (00:30) and finally got to sleep around 01:00...
Friday, December 09, 2005
Day 54 – The final day of treatment
Is there any point in writing about the night again? It was rough, I didn’t sleep much and I coughed throughout. I woke up a bit late (08:30) as the kids were getting up by themselves today for Desney is staying home to do some proofreading.
I was very tired and greatly lacking energy throughout the morning. I wasn’t finished with breakfast and medication and stuff until well after 12:30. It took me 4 hours to get everything down with a lot of coughing and a lot of retching. Not a pretty sight or sound.
But there is the tiny light at the end of the tunnel that’s blinking at me today. I knew from the moment I woke up: today is the final day of treatment. I know perfectly well it’s not the end of pain and suffering. I know that it’s going to get worse for at least 2 weeks, with the cumulated build up of chemicals and radiation in my system, before it starts getting better. But making it through today means that I have made it through the entire 8 weeks of radiation therapy without any breaks which means, to me, that I have done everything I can to kill this thing and get it out of my body. No more treatment will also mean that I can start controlling what I do when during the day and no longer have to organise my day around the clinic appointments. I am very much looking forward to the end of today…
Desney and I got to the clinic a few minutes early. They took me in right on time. I was in and out in about 15 minutes and then we had to wait to see the doctor. We waited a good half an hour and were escorted in to his office. We were both very pleased to see Dr. Mammar and he was quite pleased to see us. He said it feels like yesterday that we first met, which was the day before my treatment started (16/10), and that time had flew by. I told him that I understood but that it hadn’t exactly flown by for me. On the contrary it was quite long. We talked a bit about the treatment itself, how intense it was, how they used the maximum possible amounts of radiation and of chemo and how everything had (in principle) been removed by surgery beforehand and the radiation was for preventive measures. We talked a bit about the long-term. How long it will take before things get better. They never have an answer for that one. Each case is different and they don’t want to be pinned down to a claim they can’t stand behind later. It could be 2 months like it could be a year and a half! We talked about what changes would be permanent: much less saliva for the rest of my life which means I’ll always need a bottle of water with me; whiskers will no longer grow where I’ve been radiated so I can only grow a moustache and a goatee; a part of my neck, just under the chin, needs constant massage or I’ll look like a pelican; I’ll need to take fluoride treatments every day, for about a minute, for the rest of my life as they’ll never be able to work on the bones in my jaws and mouth and with less saliva there is always a higher risk of dental infection. As always he was a pleasure to talk to and very responsive to our questions. The most important point he wanted to get across was that normally this would be it. He can’t guarantee anything, and certainly doesn’t want to, but with the extent of treatment I went through and the extent of the surgery prior to the treatment there should not be anything left and nothing should come back. There is always a risk of remission. But that’s not what one should be thinking about as there’s nothing more one can do. One should be thinking about the present and the future without cancer. We talked about the follow up examinations and surveillance and went over what I had to do with which doctors and when. He gave me whatever last prescriptions I needed and we said goodbye. I thanked him profusely for everything.
When I got home I put myself to sleep. I fell asleep with the very satisfying feeling of having accomplished something. I didn’t falter. I went through the entire 8 weeks, and all of the treatment, without any breaks and without quitting. I’m still hurting for it but I am pleased and happy with myself for having gotten through this part. It’s a milestone. It’s not the last. But it’s an important one for me.
In the evening we had Chinese takeaway and watched a quick movie (Le Papillon) as Alexandra has school in the morning.
I was very tired and greatly lacking energy throughout the morning. I wasn’t finished with breakfast and medication and stuff until well after 12:30. It took me 4 hours to get everything down with a lot of coughing and a lot of retching. Not a pretty sight or sound.
But there is the tiny light at the end of the tunnel that’s blinking at me today. I knew from the moment I woke up: today is the final day of treatment. I know perfectly well it’s not the end of pain and suffering. I know that it’s going to get worse for at least 2 weeks, with the cumulated build up of chemicals and radiation in my system, before it starts getting better. But making it through today means that I have made it through the entire 8 weeks of radiation therapy without any breaks which means, to me, that I have done everything I can to kill this thing and get it out of my body. No more treatment will also mean that I can start controlling what I do when during the day and no longer have to organise my day around the clinic appointments. I am very much looking forward to the end of today…
Desney and I got to the clinic a few minutes early. They took me in right on time. I was in and out in about 15 minutes and then we had to wait to see the doctor. We waited a good half an hour and were escorted in to his office. We were both very pleased to see Dr. Mammar and he was quite pleased to see us. He said it feels like yesterday that we first met, which was the day before my treatment started (16/10), and that time had flew by. I told him that I understood but that it hadn’t exactly flown by for me. On the contrary it was quite long. We talked a bit about the treatment itself, how intense it was, how they used the maximum possible amounts of radiation and of chemo and how everything had (in principle) been removed by surgery beforehand and the radiation was for preventive measures. We talked a bit about the long-term. How long it will take before things get better. They never have an answer for that one. Each case is different and they don’t want to be pinned down to a claim they can’t stand behind later. It could be 2 months like it could be a year and a half! We talked about what changes would be permanent: much less saliva for the rest of my life which means I’ll always need a bottle of water with me; whiskers will no longer grow where I’ve been radiated so I can only grow a moustache and a goatee; a part of my neck, just under the chin, needs constant massage or I’ll look like a pelican; I’ll need to take fluoride treatments every day, for about a minute, for the rest of my life as they’ll never be able to work on the bones in my jaws and mouth and with less saliva there is always a higher risk of dental infection. As always he was a pleasure to talk to and very responsive to our questions. The most important point he wanted to get across was that normally this would be it. He can’t guarantee anything, and certainly doesn’t want to, but with the extent of treatment I went through and the extent of the surgery prior to the treatment there should not be anything left and nothing should come back. There is always a risk of remission. But that’s not what one should be thinking about as there’s nothing more one can do. One should be thinking about the present and the future without cancer. We talked about the follow up examinations and surveillance and went over what I had to do with which doctors and when. He gave me whatever last prescriptions I needed and we said goodbye. I thanked him profusely for everything.
When I got home I put myself to sleep. I fell asleep with the very satisfying feeling of having accomplished something. I didn’t falter. I went through the entire 8 weeks, and all of the treatment, without any breaks and without quitting. I’m still hurting for it but I am pleased and happy with myself for having gotten through this part. It’s a milestone. It’s not the last. But it’s an important one for me.
In the evening we had Chinese takeaway and watched a quick movie (Le Papillon) as Alexandra has school in the morning.
Thursday, December 08, 2005
Day 53 – The day before the end
Last night was one of the worst nights in a while. In addition to my standard coughing fits (02:30, 04:30 and 06:05) I would have little coughs every 30 to 45 minutes throughout the night. This was absolutely exhausting as I only got bursts of sleep and never a full hour of sleep without interruption.
I woke up feeling particularly bad this morning. A bout of the shivers, my bones ached, I had no energy and I actually had a pain in the muscle in my buttocks where I normally sit down.
It took me a long time to get breakfast down (oatmeal) and then my medication. I kept walking around the kitchen and the house like a really old man and making sort of wheezing and whining sounds out of my throat. I’m glad I was alone! About an hour or so after I got the painkillers (Efferalgan/Codeine) down I started to feel a bit stronger and was able to at least look at my e-mail.
For lunch I decided to get away from the same ole same ole. I thought about one of the beautiful tins of Cassoulet I picked up at the Salon du Vin… but I decided I’d wait until I could actually taste them. Therefore rather than another Turkish sandwich or a sandwich from the bakery…
I strolled down to Gennevilliers, about a 15 minute walk, and went to McDonald’s. What better way to fatten me up than to eat American? I also thought it would do my transit well, which has been blocked up a bit by all the medication, in that there’s nothing that goes though and out me faster than McDonald’s! As there’s so much salt and chemicals in the “food” I was actually able to taste everything and it wasn’t half bad. One mistake I will not make again however is the fizzy soda. I had a Coke with my meal and the sugary bubbles were like sandpaper going down my throat.
Back home to catch the end of Ballykissangel and off to the clinic.
I got to the clinic on time. Unfortunately they were having problems again. My radiation machine was not working properly. They were unable to be 100% certain as to what dosage it was giving. That was good enough for me to avoid it. A half hour later they called my name, took me to a side, explained the situation and asked if I could come back on Monday. I explained that tomorrow was my last day of my entire treatment and that I would not want to come back on Monday. I told them I was prepared to wait if necessary but I would do anything not to come back on Monday. They said they would see if they could squeeze me in to the other machine. An hour later they came back out and announced that the machine had been fixed. They called my name as the first patient. I took them to a side this time and verified that every aspect of the machine was working and they were able to control the doses. They asked if I wanted to see a doctor. I asked if a doctor had verified the system. They said that Dr. Mammar had just verified the system which is why they were now operating again. That was good enough for me. I didn’t get out of there until 17:45 but at least I don’t have to extend my treatment.
I got home and put myself to bed until dinner. Desney did chicken legs and spinach. The chicken was delicious, filling and I was able to eat everything.
I woke up feeling particularly bad this morning. A bout of the shivers, my bones ached, I had no energy and I actually had a pain in the muscle in my buttocks where I normally sit down.
It took me a long time to get breakfast down (oatmeal) and then my medication. I kept walking around the kitchen and the house like a really old man and making sort of wheezing and whining sounds out of my throat. I’m glad I was alone! About an hour or so after I got the painkillers (Efferalgan/Codeine) down I started to feel a bit stronger and was able to at least look at my e-mail.
For lunch I decided to get away from the same ole same ole. I thought about one of the beautiful tins of Cassoulet I picked up at the Salon du Vin… but I decided I’d wait until I could actually taste them. Therefore rather than another Turkish sandwich or a sandwich from the bakery…
I strolled down to Gennevilliers, about a 15 minute walk, and went to McDonald’s. What better way to fatten me up than to eat American? I also thought it would do my transit well, which has been blocked up a bit by all the medication, in that there’s nothing that goes though and out me faster than McDonald’s! As there’s so much salt and chemicals in the “food” I was actually able to taste everything and it wasn’t half bad. One mistake I will not make again however is the fizzy soda. I had a Coke with my meal and the sugary bubbles were like sandpaper going down my throat.
Back home to catch the end of Ballykissangel and off to the clinic.
I got to the clinic on time. Unfortunately they were having problems again. My radiation machine was not working properly. They were unable to be 100% certain as to what dosage it was giving. That was good enough for me to avoid it. A half hour later they called my name, took me to a side, explained the situation and asked if I could come back on Monday. I explained that tomorrow was my last day of my entire treatment and that I would not want to come back on Monday. I told them I was prepared to wait if necessary but I would do anything not to come back on Monday. They said they would see if they could squeeze me in to the other machine. An hour later they came back out and announced that the machine had been fixed. They called my name as the first patient. I took them to a side this time and verified that every aspect of the machine was working and they were able to control the doses. They asked if I wanted to see a doctor. I asked if a doctor had verified the system. They said that Dr. Mammar had just verified the system which is why they were now operating again. That was good enough for me. I didn’t get out of there until 17:45 but at least I don’t have to extend my treatment.
I got home and put myself to bed until dinner. Desney did chicken legs and spinach. The chicken was delicious, filling and I was able to eat everything.
Wednesday, December 07, 2005
Day 52 – Wednesday…
Another rough night. I feel like I sleep better on the couch, as I can raise my torso a bit, but I’m still having rough nights. Three fits last night: 02:30, 04:30 and 06:30. After a few minutes of coughing my throat literally feels like it’s been burned from the inside and I just sit there crying in the dark trying desperately to rip my throat out my body and throw it out the window.
My appointment was late today (17:30) so I had all sorts of time. I admit I took my time getting through the day. I did everything rather slowly and had lunch in front of Ballykissangel on the tele again.
I left at about 16:45 for the clinic. As it was later in the day they were running later as well. I didn’t go in for treatment until about 17:45. They only zapped my left side today and explained that they’re done with my right side. Any news of less treatment is good news.
I got home pretty exhausted and in time for dinner. I’m sorry I can’t remember what it was but I know I ate all of it. I also had a Rénutryl to make me feel like I’m a good boy and doing what I was told. I have to admit it’s very strange for me to be actually thinking of things to help me gain weight rather than the other way around. That said I never spent a lot of energy on losing weight either…
The end of the day these days is becoming as bad as the mornings. I generally get uncontrollable coughing fits which are very painful. I just sit there trying not to cough up a disgusting ball of saliva and not make too much noise. Again I just sit there crying and waiting for it to finish…
Another day done… only 2 more days of treatment to go!
My appointment was late today (17:30) so I had all sorts of time. I admit I took my time getting through the day. I did everything rather slowly and had lunch in front of Ballykissangel on the tele again.
I left at about 16:45 for the clinic. As it was later in the day they were running later as well. I didn’t go in for treatment until about 17:45. They only zapped my left side today and explained that they’re done with my right side. Any news of less treatment is good news.
I got home pretty exhausted and in time for dinner. I’m sorry I can’t remember what it was but I know I ate all of it. I also had a Rénutryl to make me feel like I’m a good boy and doing what I was told. I have to admit it’s very strange for me to be actually thinking of things to help me gain weight rather than the other way around. That said I never spent a lot of energy on losing weight either…
The end of the day these days is becoming as bad as the mornings. I generally get uncontrollable coughing fits which are very painful. I just sit there trying not to cough up a disgusting ball of saliva and not make too much noise. Again I just sit there crying and waiting for it to finish…
Another day done… only 2 more days of treatment to go!
Tuesday, December 06, 2005
Day 51 - Back to the clinic
The night was as usual (fits at 02:30, 04:30 and 06:30) and I got up after everyone had left in the morning.
My morning was spent as usual just getting through the routine (breakfast, medecine and toileteries).
I got a sandwich from the local bakery, which I was able to eat, and I watched Ballykissangel while having lunch.
Then it was back to the clinic for my treatment. They were reasonably on time and the treatment went well. Afterwards however they informed me that they had changed the times of my other appointments for the week. Tomorrow's appointment is now 17:30 which puts me in traffic... but I'm not exactly in a rush to go anywhere...
I got home from the clinic and the burning sensations started. My mouth was completely dry and the back of my throat literally felt like it had been blowtorched. I put myself to bed and to sleep until everyone got home.
Dinner was fish and veg. I ate the veg but the mushy fish went down too bland and like chalk. I therefore drank one of my Rénutryl so that I felt like I had a meal.
This evening I decided to sleep on the couch. This way Desney can get our bed and a good night sleep. Tomorrow's Wednesday so I can sleep in a bit and I will not be in anyone's way in the living room.
One last long coughing fit and off to bed...
My morning was spent as usual just getting through the routine (breakfast, medecine and toileteries).
I got a sandwich from the local bakery, which I was able to eat, and I watched Ballykissangel while having lunch.
Then it was back to the clinic for my treatment. They were reasonably on time and the treatment went well. Afterwards however they informed me that they had changed the times of my other appointments for the week. Tomorrow's appointment is now 17:30 which puts me in traffic... but I'm not exactly in a rush to go anywhere...
I got home from the clinic and the burning sensations started. My mouth was completely dry and the back of my throat literally felt like it had been blowtorched. I put myself to bed and to sleep until everyone got home.
Dinner was fish and veg. I ate the veg but the mushy fish went down too bland and like chalk. I therefore drank one of my Rénutryl so that I felt like I had a meal.
This evening I decided to sleep on the couch. This way Desney can get our bed and a good night sleep. Tomorrow's Wednesday so I can sleep in a bit and I will not be in anyone's way in the living room.
One last long coughing fit and off to bed...
Monday, December 05, 2005
Day 50 - Monday at home
Day 50: I was never supposed to write that. For the longest time I had counted on 7 weeks of treatment and Day 49 was supposed to be my last day. But life is just full of so many surprises.
As the electricity was still out, for our area of Asnières, when I went to bed I brought my Palm TX with me to use as a clock. I was able to sleep until 04:30. But the coughing fit at that time was one of the worse: it lasted at least 10 minutes. I was quite sore afterwards and it took me a while to get back to sleep. Another fit at 06:30 had my wishing I could just throw my throat out the window. I finally got up a little after 08:00. The electricity didn't come back on until after 07:00 in the morning!
As usual I spent the morning with my daily chores (breakfast, medicine and toileteries). I read a bit but had difficulty concentrating and found myself reading the same page several times... very frustrating. Finally I ran out and got myself a Greek sandwich (donner kebab) and settled down to watch Ballykissangel.
I was going to get up and do things after Ballykissangel. I had everything planned in my mind: e-mail and bookkeeping. I never made it out of the couch. The fatigue just caught up with me and, though no choice of my own, my body decided it was time to sleep. I didn't get up again until after everyone got home (after 18:00).
Dinner was enjoyable: minestrone soup with ciabatta bread and some Aoste ham. I was able to eat everything and quite enjoyed. Everything tasted bland but not bad.
I sat around reading on my Palm TX (WiFi news through AvantGo and AddIt and a new book "Da Vinci Rising" by Jack Dann) most of the evening. As Jessica is trying to finish "Le Barbier de Seville" the TV was actually off. It was great!
Got my evening medication down and off to bed a bit after midnight...
As the electricity was still out, for our area of Asnières, when I went to bed I brought my Palm TX with me to use as a clock. I was able to sleep until 04:30. But the coughing fit at that time was one of the worse: it lasted at least 10 minutes. I was quite sore afterwards and it took me a while to get back to sleep. Another fit at 06:30 had my wishing I could just throw my throat out the window. I finally got up a little after 08:00. The electricity didn't come back on until after 07:00 in the morning!
As usual I spent the morning with my daily chores (breakfast, medicine and toileteries). I read a bit but had difficulty concentrating and found myself reading the same page several times... very frustrating. Finally I ran out and got myself a Greek sandwich (donner kebab) and settled down to watch Ballykissangel.
I was going to get up and do things after Ballykissangel. I had everything planned in my mind: e-mail and bookkeeping. I never made it out of the couch. The fatigue just caught up with me and, though no choice of my own, my body decided it was time to sleep. I didn't get up again until after everyone got home (after 18:00).
Dinner was enjoyable: minestrone soup with ciabatta bread and some Aoste ham. I was able to eat everything and quite enjoyed. Everything tasted bland but not bad.
I sat around reading on my Palm TX (WiFi news through AvantGo and AddIt and a new book "Da Vinci Rising" by Jack Dann) most of the evening. As Jessica is trying to finish "Le Barbier de Seville" the TV was actually off. It was great!
Got my evening medication down and off to bed a bit after midnight...
Targeted
I’ve wanted to write this down for quite some time…
Why Me? The question is so stereotypical for a victim that it almost becomes rhetorical. As a cancer victim I have obviously asked myself the question over and over again without even expecting a response. But I am still curious. Why do such bad things happen to good people? How many times do we read about some psychopathic child-molesting serial killer dying a slowly painful death of cancer?
I was watching a documentary the other night on last year’s Boxing Day Tsunami which included discussions with survivors. Survivors are pretty stereotypical just like victims. Be it the Holocaust, September 11th or the Tsunami the survivors question is “Why not me?” or “Why did I survive and these others die?”. They too will never have an answer and tend to live with a lot of guilt in the mean time. I personally have always thought of myself as a survivor and have survived quite a lot of ups and downs in my life. I have never (yet?) felt guilty about surviving… I’ve always felt happy to be alive and generally a bit proud and pleased with myself.
Lately I feel that not only did I do something seriously wrong (bad karma, bad vibes or just bad attitude) that I am being paid back for but that some entity has literally made choices about this disease specifically for me. It can’t be entirely coincidence that out of all the fatal diseases out there, and unfortunately we do not lack choices, this particular blend of cancer affects all of the specific aspects of life which are dear to me.
I am a very sensual person. I was raised with an emphasis on the 6 senses (yes… 6). The basic 5 (taste, smell, touch, hearing and sight) have all been the most important aspects of my life. By this I mean that the senses have been more important to me than the intellect. In my personal life taste has become probably the most enjoyable and pleasurable. One of the major reasons I chose to live where I live is that we eat for pleasure not purely for biological needs. I love the various tastes of foods and wines. That is where my artistic sides lie. It can not be entirely coincidental that the direct effect of this particular flavour of this disease affects specifically my favourites: ALL wine tastes awful, cheese tastes like chalk, patés sting, fresh bread hurts to chew and the list goes on. All of the foods and tastes I love in life have been taken away from me. I don’t even know for certain that my taste buds will ever come back to the level I had raised them to.
And now I can’t speak. Now anyone who knows me, even those who only know me by reputation, knows that I love to talk and always have. I worked on my voice, my pronunciation and my accent throughout most of my childhood. I’ve always been both proud of and pleased with my voice. However I also have just always enjoyed the simple pleasure of conversation. Now conversation is actually painful. It’s not that my voice is weak and faint, which it is, but rather that is actually physically painful to try and speak. I can only hope that my voice will one day come back to where it was before all this started.
It still seems to me as though all of the specific effects of this illness have been directed at my specific pleasures in life. My question therefore no longer is “Why Me?” but rather “What did I do? … and to who?” If someone would let me know I would apologise, I would repent and I would do whatever it took to rectify the situation. I would feel so much more active rather than submitting to the disease and “getting through it”. I’ve screwed up before in my life, more times than I’d like to admit, and I thought I’ve always patched up whatever I messed up and sometimes even improved the situation in the end. But obviously I’ve missed out on something.
Paranoid? Me? Who said that???
Why Me? The question is so stereotypical for a victim that it almost becomes rhetorical. As a cancer victim I have obviously asked myself the question over and over again without even expecting a response. But I am still curious. Why do such bad things happen to good people? How many times do we read about some psychopathic child-molesting serial killer dying a slowly painful death of cancer?
I was watching a documentary the other night on last year’s Boxing Day Tsunami which included discussions with survivors. Survivors are pretty stereotypical just like victims. Be it the Holocaust, September 11th or the Tsunami the survivors question is “Why not me?” or “Why did I survive and these others die?”. They too will never have an answer and tend to live with a lot of guilt in the mean time. I personally have always thought of myself as a survivor and have survived quite a lot of ups and downs in my life. I have never (yet?) felt guilty about surviving… I’ve always felt happy to be alive and generally a bit proud and pleased with myself.
Lately I feel that not only did I do something seriously wrong (bad karma, bad vibes or just bad attitude) that I am being paid back for but that some entity has literally made choices about this disease specifically for me. It can’t be entirely coincidence that out of all the fatal diseases out there, and unfortunately we do not lack choices, this particular blend of cancer affects all of the specific aspects of life which are dear to me.
I am a very sensual person. I was raised with an emphasis on the 6 senses (yes… 6). The basic 5 (taste, smell, touch, hearing and sight) have all been the most important aspects of my life. By this I mean that the senses have been more important to me than the intellect. In my personal life taste has become probably the most enjoyable and pleasurable. One of the major reasons I chose to live where I live is that we eat for pleasure not purely for biological needs. I love the various tastes of foods and wines. That is where my artistic sides lie. It can not be entirely coincidental that the direct effect of this particular flavour of this disease affects specifically my favourites: ALL wine tastes awful, cheese tastes like chalk, patés sting, fresh bread hurts to chew and the list goes on. All of the foods and tastes I love in life have been taken away from me. I don’t even know for certain that my taste buds will ever come back to the level I had raised them to.
And now I can’t speak. Now anyone who knows me, even those who only know me by reputation, knows that I love to talk and always have. I worked on my voice, my pronunciation and my accent throughout most of my childhood. I’ve always been both proud of and pleased with my voice. However I also have just always enjoyed the simple pleasure of conversation. Now conversation is actually painful. It’s not that my voice is weak and faint, which it is, but rather that is actually physically painful to try and speak. I can only hope that my voice will one day come back to where it was before all this started.
It still seems to me as though all of the specific effects of this illness have been directed at my specific pleasures in life. My question therefore no longer is “Why Me?” but rather “What did I do? … and to who?” If someone would let me know I would apologise, I would repent and I would do whatever it took to rectify the situation. I would feel so much more active rather than submitting to the disease and “getting through it”. I’ve screwed up before in my life, more times than I’d like to admit, and I thought I’ve always patched up whatever I messed up and sometimes even improved the situation in the end. But obviously I’ve missed out on something.
Paranoid? Me? Who said that???
Sunday, December 04, 2005
Day 49 - A relaxing Sunday
Last night was a good night: I slept through to 06:00 and didn’t have a second coughing fit until about 08:30 when I got up.
There isn’t much to say about today as I just didn’t do much. I was quite tired throughout the day and slept a lot. I watched a bit of television and read a bit of my book. But I didn’t do any one thing for too long as my concentration just isn’t there.
I had one of my Rénutryl drinks for lunch and Desney prepared a lovely dinner (lamb chops, boiled potatoes and an interesting mix of carrots and pumpkins with lots of garlic and onion). I was able to eat more than one helping of dinner. Desney and I have gotten to know each other’s cures over the many years. After living with Desney for so long I know for a fact that a cup of tea will cure just about any known illness or disease. This has been proven to me by BBC television in such shows as Casualty and Holby City and such where both doctors and patients are offered cups of tea no matter what the problem, ailment or situation may be. After living with me for so long Desney knows, by now, that garlic, onions and olive oil will cure any known disease, poison or illness known to man. It’s my family’s Italian-Jewish chemotherapy. It’ll kill anything and eliminate it out of the body.
In the evening, at about 23:00, we had yet another electricity cut. The last two we had were while Arlene was here which she found very disconcerting. The power cut lasted quite some time and when we went to bed, after midnight, we still didn’t have any electricity.
There isn’t much to say about today as I just didn’t do much. I was quite tired throughout the day and slept a lot. I watched a bit of television and read a bit of my book. But I didn’t do any one thing for too long as my concentration just isn’t there.
I had one of my Rénutryl drinks for lunch and Desney prepared a lovely dinner (lamb chops, boiled potatoes and an interesting mix of carrots and pumpkins with lots of garlic and onion). I was able to eat more than one helping of dinner. Desney and I have gotten to know each other’s cures over the many years. After living with Desney for so long I know for a fact that a cup of tea will cure just about any known illness or disease. This has been proven to me by BBC television in such shows as Casualty and Holby City and such where both doctors and patients are offered cups of tea no matter what the problem, ailment or situation may be. After living with me for so long Desney knows, by now, that garlic, onions and olive oil will cure any known disease, poison or illness known to man. It’s my family’s Italian-Jewish chemotherapy. It’ll kill anything and eliminate it out of the body.
In the evening, at about 23:00, we had yet another electricity cut. The last two we had were while Arlene was here which she found very disconcerting. The power cut lasted quite some time and when we went to bed, after midnight, we still didn’t have any electricity.
Saturday, December 03, 2005
Day 48 - Saturday - A Day Off
Last night was better than usual in that I only got up twice (04:30 & 06:30).
No treatment today meant that I took my time getting ready throughout the morning.
I wish the painkillers would work and do something about the pain itself. The burning sensation gets worse each day.
I basically did nothing all day.
Desney prepared Mussels and chips for dinner in one of her classic cream, herbs and wine sauces. It was delicious. I was actually able to taste the mussles and ate 3 plates worth. The chips were great too and I dunked them in the sauce and could eat all of them as well. It was a nice feeling to have a full tummy with something other than a liquid protein drink. The Gewurztraminer the rest of the family was drinking looked like it went down quite well with the meal.
I went to bed at about midnight after playing around with the WiFi stuff on my Palm TX for a couple of hours.
No treatment today meant that I took my time getting ready throughout the morning.
I wish the painkillers would work and do something about the pain itself. The burning sensation gets worse each day.
I basically did nothing all day.
Desney prepared Mussels and chips for dinner in one of her classic cream, herbs and wine sauces. It was delicious. I was actually able to taste the mussles and ate 3 plates worth. The chips were great too and I dunked them in the sauce and could eat all of them as well. It was a nice feeling to have a full tummy with something other than a liquid protein drink. The Gewurztraminer the rest of the family was drinking looked like it went down quite well with the meal.
I went to bed at about midnight after playing around with the WiFi stuff on my Palm TX for a couple of hours.
Friday, December 02, 2005
Day 47 – The Circus
Last night was probably the worst of the week. I was up at 02:30, 04:30, 05:30 and 06:30. I’m starting to feel the same sleep depravation I remember from when the girls were babies. But I’m not that young and strong any more.
I was up and ready relatively early, around 09:30, as I knew I had some work things to get done in the morning. I tried a new painkiller a friend had recommended. By 10:00 I was basically macraméed in to the couch and couldn’t move. Great stuff! But it paralysed me, for all practical purposes, until about 15:15. Then I had to go back to the clinic for my last treatment of the week. The treatment went well and I was back home not too late.
For the evening we had purchased tickets, many months ago, for the Chinese Circus at Asnières Theatre. The Shenyang Acrobatic Troupe. I drank one of my Rénutryl drinks for dinner and off we went. We met Jessica at the theatre as she was coming home from representing her school at the Paris Model United Nations (PAMUN at UNESCO. It was a wonderful night out. The circus was more than enjoyable. However we’ve been so spoiled by the Cirque de Soleil now that it’s difficult for us to watch anything else. We had a great evening and I was very, very tired when we got home.
For quite some time I had been planning on this being my last day of treatment. It isn’t. I’ve got three days off and then I’ve got one more week of four treatments. Seven down and one more week to go…
I was up and ready relatively early, around 09:30, as I knew I had some work things to get done in the morning. I tried a new painkiller a friend had recommended. By 10:00 I was basically macraméed in to the couch and couldn’t move. Great stuff! But it paralysed me, for all practical purposes, until about 15:15. Then I had to go back to the clinic for my last treatment of the week. The treatment went well and I was back home not too late.
For the evening we had purchased tickets, many months ago, for the Chinese Circus at Asnières Theatre. The Shenyang Acrobatic Troupe. I drank one of my Rénutryl drinks for dinner and off we went. We met Jessica at the theatre as she was coming home from representing her school at the Paris Model United Nations (PAMUN at UNESCO. It was a wonderful night out. The circus was more than enjoyable. However we’ve been so spoiled by the Cirque de Soleil now that it’s difficult for us to watch anything else. We had a great evening and I was very, very tired when we got home.
For quite some time I had been planning on this being my last day of treatment. It isn’t. I’ve got three days off and then I’ve got one more week of four treatments. Seven down and one more week to go…
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Day 46 – Dr. Mammar
Another long and very difficult night. The pain and the coughing fits started even before going to bed this time and it was difficult to get the evening medicine down.
I got up a little later than usual and feeling a little weaker than usual. It took me all morning to get ready as has become habit.
I went and got my treatment and waited to see a doctor. I was very pleased to be ushered in to see Dr. Mammar. He remembered me well and was amazed at how long it’s been since we had a consultation together. He was very pleased with how I look (throat and neck) and feels I am tolerating the treatment very well. I told him I would hate to see the neck and throat of someone who’s tolerating it worse. He said I was definitely doing better than most. We spoke of my difficulties and looked for possible solutions together. There’s not much to be done about my biggest problem: the coughing fits. He checked me out with a stethoscope and looked up my nose with a special light. I don’t have a cold. The coughs come from the balls of saliva. There’s nothing they can do to break those up or stop them from forming. All I can do is keep trying the “magic mouthwash” he gives me to protect the throat. He gave me a prescription for some syrup to coat the throat to help protect it from the acid formed when the saliva goes up and down and when I wretch. They don’t have a solution for the spots (pimples) on my tongue either. He says those are a reaction from the chemotherapy and not the x-ray therapy. They are caused by a chemical reaction in my saliva which mixes with my tongue and is quite acidic. This is caused by the antibodies in my body fighting off the chemo chemicals while still eliminating them from my body. The spots will go away naturally and eventually as the chemo chemicals are fully eliminated. I told them that they make it difficult for me to eat as they make most food sting and burn in my mouth. He recommended I try the liquid protein drinks I had been prescribed earlier. As it turns out I had drunk one for the first time today, as I was having difficulty getting anything else down, and it actually was not that bad. He told me to try and have at least one if not two per day. I then asked him if there was anything that could be done about the pain in general. He said they couldn’t do anything in addition. I asked him in addition to what? He was absolutely flabbergasted by the fact that I was not taking morphine. He prescribes a morphine patch, systematically, at the beginning of treatment to all patients who have the levels of radiation therapy I have and especially all those who have radiation therapy and chemotherapy together. The patch is worn on the shoulder and it slowly distributes small doses of morphine in to the body over a 3-day period. The patch is replaced every 3 days by the patient. He had assumed I had the patch the first time we met and hadn’t even asked or proposed anything since. He was quite impressed I had gone this far without regular pain killers. He explained, however, how it is too late to start the morphine now as there is only one more week of treatment left. At this stage they would already be starting to work on the “weaning period” where the dosage is slowly reduced to get the patient off of the morphine without getting addicted. I told him that I had been taking Efferalgan (paracetamol) with Codeine in the evening. He prescribed me twice the dose and told me to take it three times a day. I’m looking forward to that!
We talked about the treatment in general. He is very easy to talk to. He too was very pleased that I had gone through two full cycles of chemotherapy and felt that was more than enough. Both the chemo and radiation therapies they are putting me through are at the maximal levels. He said this is because I am so young and healthy. I told him I didn’t feel either these days. I asked him about when the PAC (catheter in my chest) would be removed. He explained that normally with cancer at my level (stage 4 --- without actually mentioning that) they would normally keep the PAC in for 6 to 12 months in case they had to go back to chemotherapy if the cancer came back. However looking over my surgery records and the fact that all of the tumours had been completely removed, and the large levels of radiation and chemotherapies, he felt that the PAC could be removed without risk. The decision must come from Dr. Kanoui. However it can not be moved until all of the “toxicity” has left my body which will take another two months. I will therefore ask Dr. Kanoui about it when I seem him on December 20th but the earliest would be mid-February. We spoke a bit about post-treatment and what happens after the end of next week. We spoke about the tests (scanners and blood) and the exams (Dr. Hagege and his cameras up my nose and down my throat) that I’ll have to go through repeatedly over the next year or two. It ain’t over yet! Overall, as always, it was great to talk with him. I left there, as usual, feeling like I had covered everything I wanted to and had a full an honest answer.
I got home feeling relatively good. I spent a portion of the afternoon installing my new Palm TX and transferring all of my data from the old to the new. I then started preparing the, now old, Palm Tungsten T3 to be sold on eBay. I was asleep by the time the women of the house got home.
I got up a little later than usual and feeling a little weaker than usual. It took me all morning to get ready as has become habit.
I went and got my treatment and waited to see a doctor. I was very pleased to be ushered in to see Dr. Mammar. He remembered me well and was amazed at how long it’s been since we had a consultation together. He was very pleased with how I look (throat and neck) and feels I am tolerating the treatment very well. I told him I would hate to see the neck and throat of someone who’s tolerating it worse. He said I was definitely doing better than most. We spoke of my difficulties and looked for possible solutions together. There’s not much to be done about my biggest problem: the coughing fits. He checked me out with a stethoscope and looked up my nose with a special light. I don’t have a cold. The coughs come from the balls of saliva. There’s nothing they can do to break those up or stop them from forming. All I can do is keep trying the “magic mouthwash” he gives me to protect the throat. He gave me a prescription for some syrup to coat the throat to help protect it from the acid formed when the saliva goes up and down and when I wretch. They don’t have a solution for the spots (pimples) on my tongue either. He says those are a reaction from the chemotherapy and not the x-ray therapy. They are caused by a chemical reaction in my saliva which mixes with my tongue and is quite acidic. This is caused by the antibodies in my body fighting off the chemo chemicals while still eliminating them from my body. The spots will go away naturally and eventually as the chemo chemicals are fully eliminated. I told them that they make it difficult for me to eat as they make most food sting and burn in my mouth. He recommended I try the liquid protein drinks I had been prescribed earlier. As it turns out I had drunk one for the first time today, as I was having difficulty getting anything else down, and it actually was not that bad. He told me to try and have at least one if not two per day. I then asked him if there was anything that could be done about the pain in general. He said they couldn’t do anything in addition. I asked him in addition to what? He was absolutely flabbergasted by the fact that I was not taking morphine. He prescribes a morphine patch, systematically, at the beginning of treatment to all patients who have the levels of radiation therapy I have and especially all those who have radiation therapy and chemotherapy together. The patch is worn on the shoulder and it slowly distributes small doses of morphine in to the body over a 3-day period. The patch is replaced every 3 days by the patient. He had assumed I had the patch the first time we met and hadn’t even asked or proposed anything since. He was quite impressed I had gone this far without regular pain killers. He explained, however, how it is too late to start the morphine now as there is only one more week of treatment left. At this stage they would already be starting to work on the “weaning period” where the dosage is slowly reduced to get the patient off of the morphine without getting addicted. I told him that I had been taking Efferalgan (paracetamol) with Codeine in the evening. He prescribed me twice the dose and told me to take it three times a day. I’m looking forward to that!
We talked about the treatment in general. He is very easy to talk to. He too was very pleased that I had gone through two full cycles of chemotherapy and felt that was more than enough. Both the chemo and radiation therapies they are putting me through are at the maximal levels. He said this is because I am so young and healthy. I told him I didn’t feel either these days. I asked him about when the PAC (catheter in my chest) would be removed. He explained that normally with cancer at my level (stage 4 --- without actually mentioning that) they would normally keep the PAC in for 6 to 12 months in case they had to go back to chemotherapy if the cancer came back. However looking over my surgery records and the fact that all of the tumours had been completely removed, and the large levels of radiation and chemotherapies, he felt that the PAC could be removed without risk. The decision must come from Dr. Kanoui. However it can not be moved until all of the “toxicity” has left my body which will take another two months. I will therefore ask Dr. Kanoui about it when I seem him on December 20th but the earliest would be mid-February. We spoke a bit about post-treatment and what happens after the end of next week. We spoke about the tests (scanners and blood) and the exams (Dr. Hagege and his cameras up my nose and down my throat) that I’ll have to go through repeatedly over the next year or two. It ain’t over yet! Overall, as always, it was great to talk with him. I left there, as usual, feeling like I had covered everything I wanted to and had a full an honest answer.
I got home feeling relatively good. I spent a portion of the afternoon installing my new Palm TX and transferring all of my data from the old to the new. I then started preparing the, now old, Palm Tungsten T3 to be sold on eBay. I was asleep by the time the women of the house got home.
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Day 45 – Harry Potter
Last night was actually a bit better. I only got up twice (04:00 and 06:00) with coughing fits. Desney’s been sleeping in the guest room, which is a bit depressing for me as I obviously miss her in bed, but she needs her sleep as she’s doing absolutely everything in this house and still finding the time to take care of me.
I had an early radiation appointment today so I hurried through the morning and was ready to go by 12:30. I didn’t have any lunch but I thought I’d grab something afterwards. I arrived on time for my appointment (13:00) and they were only slightly late. I was finished by 13:35. I told them I needed to see the doctor for my weekly appointment and they had me wait in the waiting room. The assistant came out about 10 minutes later to tell me that the doctor would be arriving until about 15:00 and I wouldn’t be able to see him until about 15:30 at the earliest. Wouldn’t it be better to see him tomorrow? I certainly wasn’t going to sit around in THAT waiting room for a couple of hours after my treatment especially as, for once; I actually had plans for the afternoon.
The best laid plans of mice and men… Today is the opening of the new Harry Potter movie (Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire) in France. I promised the kids I’d take them if I was feeling up to it. The plan was that I would have my radiation at 13:00, see a doctor by 13:45 and be home by 14:30. We’d then go see a showing of the film sometime around 16:00. I’d pick up Alexandra and Jessica from home and head to the cinema.
A brief paragraph for the foreigners in the audience: Foreign films, and television shows for that matter, are shown in VF (version française – dubbed in French) throughout France. Luckily for us in Paris and the Paris region there are certain cinemas where we can sometimes see films in VO (version originale – original audio track with French subtitles). However not all films are shown in VO, especially children’s films, and they’re shown under special conditions (particular times, days and theatres). We (the Erbs) see all English-language films in VO even if it means we don’t see them in the cinema and have to wait for the DVD.
The first part of the plan that fell apart was the show time. The theatres showing Harry Potter in VO had times of either around 15:00 or around 17:30. Nothing in between. We therefore decided to rush to the 15:10 showing at the Porte de Clichy which is relatively close to the house. I got home in time and Alexandra had gotten home, after her English class, had already had lunch and was ready to go. We left in the car at 14:30 having told Jessica to meet us at the cinema. Normally it should have been about a 20 minute drive at the maximum. Of course today traffic was just ridiculous! We arrived in the 17th, actually just next to Jessica’s school, at 14:55. We weren’t even half way there by then. By absolute coincidence Jessica actually crossed the street, to go to the métro, right in front of us. Alex recognised her, she jumped in the car and we headed off. More traffic through the 17th and we arrived in front of the cinema at 15:10. I dropped the kids off to get the tickets and looked for a parking lot. I found one in about 5 minutes. In the meantime the girls had tried to phone me about 4 or 5 times. But as I was underground in the parking lot I couldn’t answer. When I got out of the lot I called them only to find out that the move was sold out. I hadn’t expected that for a VO showing in the 17th… even on the opening day. But Harry Potter is Harry Potter. I went to go pick them up at the cinema and take them back to the parking lot to head home. In front of the cinema we met Kathleen, one of the parents who I work with in the parents’ association and someone who is very close to me, and her son. They too were headed to see Harry Potter. They had same sort of special tickets so they waited for the next showing. It was a very strange experience seeing someone who knew me “back when” (i.e. pre-cancer).
We made a few phone calls and Desney agreed to let us go see the next showing on the Champs-Elysées at 17:30. We piled in to the car and got to the Champs-Elysées in about 15 minutes, parked in about 5, walked to the theatre in 10 and bought our tickets. We were now the proud owners of 3 tickets to see Harry Potter at 17:30. It was about 15:45 at the time so we basically walked around the Champs-Elysées, stopping in to the FNAC for a while, and we headed back to the cinema early. It was a good thing we were early for quite a lot of people had started queuing upstairs. I grabbed and sandwich and got the girls popcorn and soda and we got great seats.
I must say, in my personal and rarely humble opinion, I felt the movie was the best of the four. New director, new style and very much a kids’ action / adventure movie. The kids are even getting better as actors. It was great fun and a big long.
We headed home and the kids practically went straight to bed. I went to bed as usual, after midnight, and alone.
I had an early radiation appointment today so I hurried through the morning and was ready to go by 12:30. I didn’t have any lunch but I thought I’d grab something afterwards. I arrived on time for my appointment (13:00) and they were only slightly late. I was finished by 13:35. I told them I needed to see the doctor for my weekly appointment and they had me wait in the waiting room. The assistant came out about 10 minutes later to tell me that the doctor would be arriving until about 15:00 and I wouldn’t be able to see him until about 15:30 at the earliest. Wouldn’t it be better to see him tomorrow? I certainly wasn’t going to sit around in THAT waiting room for a couple of hours after my treatment especially as, for once; I actually had plans for the afternoon.
The best laid plans of mice and men… Today is the opening of the new Harry Potter movie (Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire) in France. I promised the kids I’d take them if I was feeling up to it. The plan was that I would have my radiation at 13:00, see a doctor by 13:45 and be home by 14:30. We’d then go see a showing of the film sometime around 16:00. I’d pick up Alexandra and Jessica from home and head to the cinema.
A brief paragraph for the foreigners in the audience: Foreign films, and television shows for that matter, are shown in VF (version française – dubbed in French) throughout France. Luckily for us in Paris and the Paris region there are certain cinemas where we can sometimes see films in VO (version originale – original audio track with French subtitles). However not all films are shown in VO, especially children’s films, and they’re shown under special conditions (particular times, days and theatres). We (the Erbs) see all English-language films in VO even if it means we don’t see them in the cinema and have to wait for the DVD.
The first part of the plan that fell apart was the show time. The theatres showing Harry Potter in VO had times of either around 15:00 or around 17:30. Nothing in between. We therefore decided to rush to the 15:10 showing at the Porte de Clichy which is relatively close to the house. I got home in time and Alexandra had gotten home, after her English class, had already had lunch and was ready to go. We left in the car at 14:30 having told Jessica to meet us at the cinema. Normally it should have been about a 20 minute drive at the maximum. Of course today traffic was just ridiculous! We arrived in the 17th, actually just next to Jessica’s school, at 14:55. We weren’t even half way there by then. By absolute coincidence Jessica actually crossed the street, to go to the métro, right in front of us. Alex recognised her, she jumped in the car and we headed off. More traffic through the 17th and we arrived in front of the cinema at 15:10. I dropped the kids off to get the tickets and looked for a parking lot. I found one in about 5 minutes. In the meantime the girls had tried to phone me about 4 or 5 times. But as I was underground in the parking lot I couldn’t answer. When I got out of the lot I called them only to find out that the move was sold out. I hadn’t expected that for a VO showing in the 17th… even on the opening day. But Harry Potter is Harry Potter. I went to go pick them up at the cinema and take them back to the parking lot to head home. In front of the cinema we met Kathleen, one of the parents who I work with in the parents’ association and someone who is very close to me, and her son. They too were headed to see Harry Potter. They had same sort of special tickets so they waited for the next showing. It was a very strange experience seeing someone who knew me “back when” (i.e. pre-cancer).
We made a few phone calls and Desney agreed to let us go see the next showing on the Champs-Elysées at 17:30. We piled in to the car and got to the Champs-Elysées in about 15 minutes, parked in about 5, walked to the theatre in 10 and bought our tickets. We were now the proud owners of 3 tickets to see Harry Potter at 17:30. It was about 15:45 at the time so we basically walked around the Champs-Elysées, stopping in to the FNAC for a while, and we headed back to the cinema early. It was a good thing we were early for quite a lot of people had started queuing upstairs. I grabbed and sandwich and got the girls popcorn and soda and we got great seats.
I must say, in my personal and rarely humble opinion, I felt the movie was the best of the four. New director, new style and very much a kids’ action / adventure movie. The kids are even getting better as actors. It was great fun and a big long.
We headed home and the kids practically went straight to bed. I went to bed as usual, after midnight, and alone.
The Telephone
This is an appeal to everyone. Please stop calling me on the telephone (home land line, office line or mobile phone)!
My voice is now below a whisper and I have to really shout to be even fainly heard on the phone. Oral conversation rapidly becomes quite painful and extremely frustrating for both parties.
E-mail works fine as does the comments section here on the blog. I also can sometimes be found on MSN Messenger with my old e-mail address (erb@erb.com) or on Yahoo Messenger with my Yahoo account (dce42). I can type just as fast as I speak so instant messaging works fine for me. However plesae do not assume that because you see me online in one of these IM programmes that I am up and ready for a chat. Sometimes I just leave the computer on...
My voice is now below a whisper and I have to really shout to be even fainly heard on the phone. Oral conversation rapidly becomes quite painful and extremely frustrating for both parties.
E-mail works fine as does the comments section here on the blog. I also can sometimes be found on MSN Messenger with my old e-mail address (erb@erb.com) or on Yahoo Messenger with my Yahoo account (dce42). I can type just as fast as I speak so instant messaging works fine for me. However plesae do not assume that because you see me online in one of these IM programmes that I am up and ready for a chat. Sometimes I just leave the computer on...
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Day 44 - Back to the clinic
Last night was probably the worst. I had coughing fits almost hourly and they were really very painful. Coughing and wretching both really hurt my throat. I just wish it would stop...
I got out of bed around 9:00 trying to get at least the slightest bits of sleep in bouts. I took all morning getting breakfast down, my medicine and getting ready. By the end of the morning I had to grab a very quick lunch (a sandwich from the local bakery) and dash off to the clinic.
The clinic has 2 radiation therapy machines. One on each side of the building. "My" machine is the one on the far side. Today my machine wasn't working. They were therefore running very late as they had to squeeze both groups on to the one machine on the near side. I arrived 5 minutes early and ended up waiting an hour and a quarter before my treatment. As the team working on this machine is different from the other team I couldn't get my schedule planned for next week. As everything was running late the doctors were running late as well. I wanted to see a doctor about the coughing, the spots on my tongue and the constant pain. However I was told I would have to wait another hour and a half to see a doctor. I went home.
The pain and dryness increased after today's treatment. I sometimes get the feeling someone's trying to test me with all of this to see just how much I can stand.
"Still here?"... "let's try giving some more then! We'll see if you come back."
Desney prepared a delicious steak and salad. I could eat the steak, albeit embarassingly slowly, but the sauce on the salad burned my tongue and throat.
I spent the evening watching TV shows I had recorded from BBC Prime on to the computer (Down to Earth and good ole Ballykissangel).
I got out of bed around 9:00 trying to get at least the slightest bits of sleep in bouts. I took all morning getting breakfast down, my medicine and getting ready. By the end of the morning I had to grab a very quick lunch (a sandwich from the local bakery) and dash off to the clinic.
The clinic has 2 radiation therapy machines. One on each side of the building. "My" machine is the one on the far side. Today my machine wasn't working. They were therefore running very late as they had to squeeze both groups on to the one machine on the near side. I arrived 5 minutes early and ended up waiting an hour and a quarter before my treatment. As the team working on this machine is different from the other team I couldn't get my schedule planned for next week. As everything was running late the doctors were running late as well. I wanted to see a doctor about the coughing, the spots on my tongue and the constant pain. However I was told I would have to wait another hour and a half to see a doctor. I went home.
The pain and dryness increased after today's treatment. I sometimes get the feeling someone's trying to test me with all of this to see just how much I can stand.
"Still here?"... "let's try giving some more then! We'll see if you come back."
Desney prepared a delicious steak and salad. I could eat the steak, albeit embarassingly slowly, but the sauce on the salad burned my tongue and throat.
I spent the evening watching TV shows I had recorded from BBC Prime on to the computer (Down to Earth and good ole Ballykissangel).
Monday, November 28, 2005
Day 43 - 4th Day Off
One thing I'm starting to truly realise is that all of this certainly isn't going to stop the day after treatment stops. It's been 4 days now that I haven't had any treatment and I certainly feel a lot worse than I did 4 days ago. The pain has increased both in intensity and in regularity. It's obvious that when the treatment ends, in less than 2 weeks, the pain is going to increase before it decreases. Just something else to look forward to.
I didn't get a lot of sleep last night. I have coughing fits throughout the night about once every hour or hour and a half. I was therefore pretty tired this morning even though I didn't get out of bed until about 09:00.
It took me all morning to get through breakfast and medecine and such. That just brought me to lunch.
After lunch I had been hopeful to go down to my office and get a bit of accounting done. No such luck. I just didn't have the energy for it. I hung out on the couch all afternoon doing practically nothing (TV, book (Cauchemar dans les Côtes de Nuits), Sudokus, ...). I didn't actually sleep as I wanted to be good and tired for the evening.
Desney prepared dinner, as always, and it was delicious. It's getting more and more painful to eat but I am still getting food down. It just takes me a lot longer.
There was nothing on television as usual. As Springsteen predicted "57 channels and nothing on"... well we have a lot more channels than that and still nothing on. I zapped back and forth most of the evening.
I didn't get a lot of sleep last night. I have coughing fits throughout the night about once every hour or hour and a half. I was therefore pretty tired this morning even though I didn't get out of bed until about 09:00.
It took me all morning to get through breakfast and medecine and such. That just brought me to lunch.
After lunch I had been hopeful to go down to my office and get a bit of accounting done. No such luck. I just didn't have the energy for it. I hung out on the couch all afternoon doing practically nothing (TV, book (Cauchemar dans les Côtes de Nuits), Sudokus, ...). I didn't actually sleep as I wanted to be good and tired for the evening.
Desney prepared dinner, as always, and it was delicious. It's getting more and more painful to eat but I am still getting food down. It just takes me a lot longer.
There was nothing on television as usual. As Springsteen predicted "57 channels and nothing on"... well we have a lot more channels than that and still nothing on. I zapped back and forth most of the evening.
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Day 42 - A relaxing Sunday
I wish I could say that every day gets better. Unfortunately it's the opposite: every day just gets worse.
As it's Sunday I slept in a bit. Alexandra even slept in a bit. Jessica had gone to a friend's house last night to sleep over. I spent all morning having breakfast and getting clean.
For the first time in quite some time I actually went down to my office and sorted through some paperwork. I mostly did what absolutely had to be done and left it at that. I am very frustrated by the fact that I can't concentrate too long on any one project. My mind wanders and I can't remember what I'm doing. Programming is therefore impossible. Bookkeeping is about as far as I can get and even then I have to total up about 3 times.
In the afternoon I had a nap and then Desney made pork spare ribs for dinner with potatoes and carrots. I was able to eat everything, albeit with difficulty, and watched as the rest of the family had a bottle of Fleurie to wash it all down.
E.R. has finished here in France so we had to find something else to watch. We ended up watching Capital which is a show we used to watch regularly before E.R. was running. It's a news show based on the French economy. It's extremely well done and we've been watching it ever since their first season. Now we just miss Culture Pub which used to be on afterwards and which showed television adverts from all over the world many of which were absolutely hilarious.
As I started yet another coughing fit again at about half past midnight I crawled in to the bed in the guest room to allow Desney to get some sleep. She's got work tomorrow, of course, and I've just got to try and get through the day...
- My red neck is now burned brown.
- My coughing fits are now both at night and during the day with the extra added delightful feature of wretching up saliva every now and then.
- Swallowing is beyond painful and my throat constantly hurts.
The dryness in my throat is such that it's sometimes even hurts to breathe. - My voice has gotten worse and worse to the point that now if I scream it comes out a whisper.
As it's Sunday I slept in a bit. Alexandra even slept in a bit. Jessica had gone to a friend's house last night to sleep over. I spent all morning having breakfast and getting clean.
For the first time in quite some time I actually went down to my office and sorted through some paperwork. I mostly did what absolutely had to be done and left it at that. I am very frustrated by the fact that I can't concentrate too long on any one project. My mind wanders and I can't remember what I'm doing. Programming is therefore impossible. Bookkeeping is about as far as I can get and even then I have to total up about 3 times.
In the afternoon I had a nap and then Desney made pork spare ribs for dinner with potatoes and carrots. I was able to eat everything, albeit with difficulty, and watched as the rest of the family had a bottle of Fleurie to wash it all down.
E.R. has finished here in France so we had to find something else to watch. We ended up watching Capital which is a show we used to watch regularly before E.R. was running. It's a news show based on the French economy. It's extremely well done and we've been watching it ever since their first season. Now we just miss Culture Pub which used to be on afterwards and which showed television adverts from all over the world many of which were absolutely hilarious.
As I started yet another coughing fit again at about half past midnight I crawled in to the bed in the guest room to allow Desney to get some sleep. She's got work tomorrow, of course, and I've just got to try and get through the day...
Saturday, November 26, 2005
Day 41 - A real day off
After a few nights of not getting any sleep and coughing all night I had a good look at the painkillers I have been shoving up my ass. I checked out the ingredients: 500 mg of Paracetamol (fine), 15mg of dried opium (bring it on!) and 50 mg of pure caffeine (what the???). It clearly says on the notice inside that these are not to be taken at night due to the large quantity of pure caffeine. What was Dr. Kanoui thinking??? I then checked out the effervescent painkillers I had been prescribed after my surgeries: 500 mg of Paracetamol (same), 30 mg of Codeine (not quite the same as dried opium but it'll have to do) and no caffeine. I took one of those last night and slept straight through to the morning.
Awoke with my standard coughing fit. But within a few hours I was fine again. I caught up a bit with my e-mails where I could and did a bit of bookkeeping.
I had a couple of tuna and avocado sandwiches at 15:00 and passed out by 16:00. I didn't get up until after 19:00 which was actually not such a good idea. I obviously needed the sleep but that was too much daytime sleep.
Desney made a chicken curry for dinner which was quite tasty. Afterwards I watched a bit of X Files on DVD and went to bed late.
Awoke with my standard coughing fit. But within a few hours I was fine again. I caught up a bit with my e-mails where I could and did a bit of bookkeeping.
I had a couple of tuna and avocado sandwiches at 15:00 and passed out by 16:00. I didn't get up until after 19:00 which was actually not such a good idea. I obviously needed the sleep but that was too much daytime sleep.
Desney made a chicken curry for dinner which was quite tasty. Afterwards I watched a bit of X Files on DVD and went to bed late.
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